Zoom Autism Magazine Issue 2 - Page 8

ZOOM IN Married with Children AND with Asperger’s CarolAnn Edscorn He is finally trained! My husband of 32 years has not completed a sentence but once this past year. Like most neurotypical people, my husband, Christopher, has a tendency to want to finish others’ sentences when there is a pause. That is not helpful for me. I received my diagnosis of Asperger’s Syndrome in 1994, shortly after the birth of our fourth child. This was a wonderful event for me! (The diagnosis, I mean; although, the birth of my child was a wonderful event too!) Finally there was an explanation for lost jobs, lost friends, and lost opportunities. My husband, who is a special education teacher at the upper elementary level, spied an article taped to the classroom door of a colleague about Temple Grandin. He immediately recognized her pattern of thought and behaviors as similar to those of his wife. We went to a local specialist. Then I went to a regional expert. After the birth of our fifth child, I spent two years with a psychologist friend, sorting out my past and healing my wounded heart. I never wanted to get married or have children, and the fact that I have been married for 32 years and have 5 children amazes me. My eldest son is 28. He experienced what is now termed regressive autism just before his first birthday. I spent the next 18 months ignoring housework and playing with him on the floor, invading his space. He has since pursued an associate’s degree in his special area of interest—cars. My daughter, at age 25, is much more typical in her behaviors. She is very social, outgoing, and intelligent. Our third child is 24 and has struggled with ADHD. Both 8 Zoom Autism Through Many Lenses CarolAnn and her husband of 32 years, Christopher