“ Young professionals ! Say no to bullies !!!”
What do we risk ?
� Conflicts with others ( they feel threatened )
� Loosing respect for ourselves
� Loosing respect for others
� We will be disliked
� Enormous stress
� Violence situations
� Results opposite to expectations
What do we risk ?
� Losing your selfesteem
� Feeling hurt , angry , frustrated
� Encouraging others to dominate
� Aggression as a result of accumulation of emotions
What do we risk ?
� We might be disliked for expressing our opinions
� Changes in our relation with others – not everyone will accept assertiveness
It is important to know which attitude is dominant in my case so that I can use the most suitable one in a particular moment and in particular situation ( sometimes it is better to be submissive than assertive , and it is advisable to learn how to assess situations we are involved in ).
ASSERTIVE TECHINQUES - they will help you to behave assertive :
‣ Speak openly about what you think , or feel in this situation . If it is difficult , you can admit that
‣ Exposing hints – name what is happening . If someone indirectly insults you , name it directly asking if that is what he / she meant because this is how you understand it
‣ If you don ’ t know how to react , or what to say - don ’ t . Think it over , give yourself some time , admit that you need it .
‣ Anticipate the criticism – if you expect being criticized , you can say it first . It helps to soften your partner and it shows that you treat him fair and see your mistake and take responsibility for it
‣ Changing the general criticism into detailed – to talk exactly what is being criticized
‣ Separate content from the form – You can agree with the criticism , yet don ’ t agree with the form you are being criticized with
‣ From the matter to the process – switch your attention and the conversation from what is being said to how it is being said and what is happening between you and your partner during that conversation
‣ Using phrases starting with I – “ I want , I feel , I think , I need ” – instead of “ you are …”
‣ Repeating your answers over and over again
‣ A statement supporting your relation with your partner – “ I care about You ..”, “ Our friendship is important to me ”
‣ Coming back to the facts
‣ Mentioning consequences ( gently )
‣ Protect Yourself
5 . Self-esteem
We all evaluate ourselves – everyone thinks about themselves in a good , or in a bad way , everyone likes , or dislikes themselves . The way we think about ourselves influences our behavior and the manner we let other people treat us . Our low , or high self-esteem depends on the following factors :
' Informational and workshop guide for mobbing , discrimination and sexual harassment '
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