YOUNG PROFESSIONALS SAY NO TO BULLIES TOOLBOX YOUNG PROFESSIONALS SAY NO TO BULLIES TOOLBOX | Page 14

“Young professionals! Say no to bullies!!!”
AGGRESSIVENESS
Behavior:
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We protect our
rights ignoring the
rights of others
We dominate over
others, humiliating them
sometimes
We don’t listen to others
We make decisions
without considering
rights of others
We are hostile or
defendant
Meaning:
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That is what I think –
if you think otherwise,
you are stupid
These are my feelings,
yours don’t count
That’s the situation. I
don’t care how you see
it
Why do we behave
aggressively?
 We are afraid not to
get what we want
 We have low self-
esteem
 It used to work
 We want to catch other
people’s attention
 We want to
demonstrate our power
 We want to manipulate
others
 We want to give vent
to our feelings (it’s
often the result of
unrealistic expectation)
SUBMISSION
Behavior:
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We ignore our rights,
let others infringe them
We don’t express our
needs, beliefs and
feelings
We behave dishonestly
– our we don’t do what
we intend to do which
results in anger and
anxiety escalation
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Meaning:
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It matters what you
think, it doesn’t matter
what I think
Your feelings count,
not mine
It’s important how you
see the situation
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Why do we behave
submissively?
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We are afraid of
losing others’ support
We are afraid of
others reaction
We consider it as a
polite behavior
We want to avoid
conflicts
We want to
manipulate others
ASSERTIVENESS
Behavior:
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We defend our rights,
acknowledging the
rights of others
We express our needs,
beliefs and feelings
We are self-confident in
relations with others
Meaning:
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That is my opinion
That is how I feel
That is how I see it
I would like to know
what your opinion is,
how you feel about it.
Maybe we will be
able to find the
solution that satisfies
both of us
Why do we behave
assertively?
 We are happy with
ourselves and others
 We respect ourselves
and others
 It helps us in
accomplishing our
goals and fulfilling the
needs
 We hurt people less
 Our self-esteem is
being built up
 It gives us control
over our life
 We are honest and fair
toward ourselves and
others
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