PARENTING
Being
ORDINARY is
Extraordinary
While healing ill mental health cases , I have recently observed that the number
of children with mental disorders are increasing and this situation is alarming.
W
hen I discuss this with
parents they say “we don’t
put any pressure to
perform or to standout
extraordinary”. Children are developing
high expectations from self and we can’t
deny the role of parents, teachers,
educational institutions, contributing
like slow poison. This is getting
transferred in DNA.
Everyone wants to be extraordinary.
Everyone is unique in their own way but
this need to be extraordinary is killing
essence of life and children are getting
trapped in vicious cycle of endless
desire of being extraordinary. This
situation is getting worst when they
experience failure, rejection,
humiliation in their journey. They are
not ready to come down from the
illusionary images of extraordinary.
They just dream about it but no energy
to make it real. This is how they start
With awareness and
alertness we can give our
children an environment of
happiness, where being
ordinary is extraordinary.
experiencing a state of hopelessness
and slowly slip into depression,
Schizophrenia, bipolar disorder.
Though all these are glorified
terminologies, in real this is just a state
of imbalance.
It is true that India is going through a
transition phase where we are slowly
coming out of the shades of parents,
shades of joint family, shades of society
to search our own identity, so the chaos
is expected. We are trying to come out of
state of suppression where Identity crisis
is huge. Every change comes with some
pros and cons but with awareness we
can lessen the damage and can guide
our children with lot of clarity. To guide
them first we need to get our own clarity.
With awareness and alertness we can
give our children an environment of
happiness, where being ordinary is
extraordinary.
Dec. 2018 www.yogicherald.com
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