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“Often the negative consequences, such as resentment and an over-developed sense of responsibility, are linked to other issues and problems,” warns Garber. For instance, teens might begin to exhibit negative behaviors because they feel their own needs are not being met. Garland remarks, “The balance between childcare respon- sibilities and activities associated with adolescent development (e.g., social events, dating, free time) may be one potential chal- lenge.” She finds that social experiences help teens learn skills that enable them to navigate situations as adults. Parents should also be acutely aware of their teen’s feelings and talk things out if their teen is feeling lonely or overwhelmed. Bounce Houses Slides Finding a Balance Since resentment of the younger sibling can be an issue, Garber instructs, “While there is no foolproof guarantee for pre- venting sibling resentment, it is helpful for parents to make sure their teen has structured time that is strictly for him. Ideally, teens should be able to allocate time in their schedule for both school and social obligations. This will help them feel cared for and valued. Additionally, teens will have the opportunity to mature socially, so the peer disconnect that many responsible caretaker teens experience (and later resent) will be limited.” Garland suggests that parents consider community resourc- es as possible alternatives to ease their teen’s responsibility lev- el, such as support groups and churches. Another idea is to work out childcare swaps where families take turns with childcare. “Some cities offer free or low-cost after-school and weekend programs at city parks and recreational centers,” says Garland. Best Dressed Kids by Mary, LLC Children’s Consignment Shop Quality Children’s Clothing at Affordable Prices 651-9453 Summer Hours: Mon–Fri 10am–6pm, Thursday 10am–7pm, Sat 10am–4pm Summer Clearance Sale! 50% Off Summer clothing, footwear, books, DVDs & select toys Now through July 19th 4885 Broadway • Depew (across from Rite Aid Drugs) 1 1/2 Blocks East of Transit www.bestdressedkidsofwny.com Acosta says parents should look into extracurricular activi- ties as well. “School sports and clubs may provide a logistical solution to child care while simultaneously honoring a need to explore new interests and create bonds with other children.” Host by: TIPS & TALES “I used to babysit my younger siblings all the time. Every family is different, but I grew up way too fast and never really had time to be a child. If parents expect their teen to care for their other children, they need to allow their teen to be a kid and spend time with friends.” — Renee Falanga Brenner, New Paltz, NY Sunday July 29 12:00PM - 4:00PM PET RESCUE CHINESE AUCTION VENDORS Myrna Beth Haskell is the author of “LIONS and TIGERS and TEENS: Expert advice and support for the conscientious par- ent just like you” (Unlimited Publishing, LLC). Her work has appeared in publications across the U.S. as well as internation- ally. Learn more at www.myrnahaskell.com. — Charles Knapp, Brooklyn, NY — Irene O’Neill, Hummelstown, PA For More Information: 716.635.5303 info@smoochesforpooches.com Pr ocee e d f s it : t o ben smoochesforpooches.com “I think that taking care of a younger sibling could be fa- vorable. However, the teenager could build resentment against his younger sibling and want to rebel.” THE DAVID DEMARIE DANCE STUDIO Celebrating Our 49th Year! Members of Dance Masters of America “Certified by Test To Teach” “As long as it does not take away from the older sibling’s activ- ities on a regular basis, which can cause resentment, I think it there are positives when older siblings take care of the younger ones.” 8680 MAIN STREET WILLIAMSVILLE, 14221 rs of Members of Dance Maste e Am TAP JAZZ BALLET ACROBATICS AEROBICS Special Combination Classes for Tots Ages 3-5 Hip-Hop Classes for Ages 6 & Up Musical Theatre Dance Ages 6 & up 10 Qualified Adult Instructors A Professional, Caring Teaching Approach 5 Large Dance Rooms Annual Recital at UB’s Center For The Arts Ample Well Lit Parking 8965 Sheridan Dr. Clarence, NY 14031 Call Today For More Information 634-1651 www.daviddemarie.com July 2018 WNY Family 57