Willow Magazine CREATING LIFE - Page 114

again, at the end of the verse we again swapped them over and repeated this until they had three turns on the swing and three turns waiting each. As they swung more, the song developed and they had a longer time on the swing each time.

It was so interesting to watch how this completely changed their behaviour. Simply adding a song had turned the whole thing into a game, so that even the waiting time was fun. Later in the week I wrote a longer verse so that other mums (of a wide age range of children) could use the song as they gently guided their children through the experience of sharing.

It is easy to use this song to turn toddler sharing into a game.

The idea is that you can use the main verse of the song while someone is having a turn at something. There is an obvious section in the middle of the song where you can insert your child's name into the song, and the name of whoever they are sharing with. And when you return to the verse again it is time for the other child to have a turn.

Waiting time is for mama hugs and dancing along.

It may be best to try it first in an unheated situation, modelling to the children how to take turns whilst you sing the song. Then see if you can use it in a crisis situation. I've had a few parents try it out and say it worked for them! I hope it can work for you too!

By Belinda Kelly (aka. Songbird Bel)

Long ago in our ancient past, music and singing were an integral part of our daily activities. Songs and story told the lore of our culture, they passed down stories of creation, and they preserved links to our ancestral past. Songs educated us about the world around, the seasons and the dangers. They guided us on our journey through life.

In many homes today music still continues, but its role in this way, has largely been lost. Over time people have started to believe that there are people who can sing and people who can’t! This has meant that music has largely been reduced to the role of entertainment and is often fulfilled by music produced for a consumerist market.

Some background music in the home of course can be very helpful in providing the right mood for your children when needed. But what about reclaiming what has been lost?

I would love you, just for a moment, to imagine music as a beautiful wave, travelling from the depths of Mother Ocean until it laps gently at the feet of a child playing on the shore. When you set your intentions, words and ideas upon that wave, it reaches the child in the most magical of ways. It can communicate far more powerfully than words alone. It holds heart, intention and enchantment, and it is lasting.

To me this is what singing to your children is about!