Whittlesea CALD Communities Family Violence Research Report 2012 - Page 32

31 In order to generate discussion the groups undertook a number of activities led by the Whittlesea Community Connections’ Youth Worker for newly arrived young people. ? ? First, they were asked to brainstorm words that could be used to describe a ‘healthy’ or ‘respectful’ relationship then they were asked to brainstorm words that could be used to describe an ‘unhealthy relationship’; Second, they were given two scenarios taken from the Be the Hero! Program and asked a series of questions regarding the scenarios. Task 1 The girls group came up with eleven adjectives to describe a ‘healthy relationship’: ? ? ? ? ? ? shared values; commitment; respect; helping; caring; encouragement ? ? ? ? ? honesty; fairness; love; sharing; communication; The boys group also came up with eleven of the same or similar adjectives to describe a ‘healthy relationship’. Both groups, probably due to their young age, when asked to describe a ‘relationship’ emphasised relationships between siblings, children and parents, friends, cousins, teachers and students rather than boyfriend/girlfriend or husband/wife relationships. The girls group required more prompting to come up with adjectives to describe an ‘unhealthy relationship’ (although one girl described this task as ‘easy’ in comparison to describing a ‘healthy’ relationship). ‘Bullying’ and in particular ‘cyber-bullying’ was mentioned by both groups and was a topic they said had been discussed extensively in school. Both groups thought ‘physical’ and other’ bullying’ behaviour could occur within relationships. The boys group was able to come up with three times as many adjectives and behaviours to describe an ‘unhealthy relationship’ as the girls group including: ? ? ? cheating/infidelity; not trusting each other; fighting/arguing; ? ? ? lack of communication; selfishness; financial abuse; Both groups were asked whether they thought it was important to discuss ‘healthy’ and ‘unhealthy’ relationships and why. The boys group agreed that it was important to discuss ‘healthy’ and ‘unhealthy’ relationships to prevent making mistakes that ‘…might wreck future relationships’. The girls group were less sure of the value of discussing ‘healthy’ and ‘unhealthy’ relationships. One girl said that it was important because it was important to ‘know what to expect’ before entering a relationship while the other said she didn’t care.