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Create a Positive Mindset. Change your

nal chaos we feel. If your thoughts and

mindset, and you will change your life.

internal being are filled with chaos, you

People underestimate the power of their

will have a chaotic life, plain and simple.

own minds. How we physically experi-

Learn to focus on what matters in life:

ence the world is shaped in our mind.

finding happiness, love, and purpose. Let

How we interpret and process the things

the chaos go.

tha t happen to us is determined in our
mind long before the events take place.

Managing stress in your life is different

Our successes and failures in life are cre-

than trying to eliminate stress in your

ated in our mind long before they ever

life. In this sense, a lot of the advice out

happen to us in reality. We can’t avoid

there is wrong and only sets things up for

negative events simply through posi-

failure. Some of the things that cause the

tive thought, but we can change how

most stress (money, work, and the econ-

we respond to those events. If we have

omy) can’t simply be eliminated—that’s

a conditioned negative response (like

not reality. The successful recipe is to

negative internal chatter), we will re-

learn how to manage the stress, and the

spond negatively. If we have a positive

majority of that takes place in the frame-

framework, however, we will respond

work of your mind.

much more favorably. When our mindset
is geared toward negativity, we create

Sources:

our own negative environment and out-

www.apa.org/news/press/releases/

come. We must learn to practice a posi-

stress/2011/impact.aspx

tive mindset. Creating positive thoughts
is a way to create new neural networks in

www.healthadvocate.com/downloads/

our brains—a new roadmap. Each time

webinars/stress-workplace.pdf

we do this, it weakens the negative network. Therefore, we are better equipped

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to respond to life’s stressors and events.
Aboutt Rob:
Reduce Chaos. Change the quality of
your life. Chaos is a state of utter confu-

I am a California police officer with twen-

sion or disorder; a total lack of organiza-

ty-four years of experience. I have an

tion. Chaotic people create chaotic envi-

emphasis on tactics with over fifteen

ronments, which we interpret as added

years of SWAT experience and tactical in-

stress. Even without a significant stressor

struction in a variety of disciplines. I also

event, people like this create artificial

spent many years as a detective primarily

stress constantly. I have seen people cre-

investigating homicides and child sexual

ate conflict with everyone in their lives: a

abuse cases. I recently published, “De-

spouse, an ex-spouse, an ex-spouses new

coding Your Past – A Guide to Happiness

spouse, parents, friends, employer, and

and Success Through Self-Understand-

the list goes on. How can one person be

ing”

in conflict with so many people? The answer is surprisingly simple—the conflict

Rob’s next book, “The Opposite Man”, is

is within that person. The external chaos

due for release this Fall 2015.

we create is a mirror image of the inter-

robrmorris.com