7
GIRLFRIEND ON CALL
L
onging was something a couple
felt when they saw each other
very little. It was a feeling a wife
felt after seeing her husband leave the
house early in the morning and only
return late at night. It was something
that inspired us to write letters, which
would only arrive days or even weeks
later and when received, they brought
out a smile. But this longing died when
the internet era happened.
Today, everyone talks to each other
all the time through WhatsApp,
Messenger, Skype, emails and other
social networks. As much as this
has made many things easier, it also
damaged other areas and one of the
most serious damages happened to
relationships.
It’s hard to see a young man miss his
girlfriend, after all, she keeps in touch
with him all the time! And if he forgets
to tell her good morning, she’ll be
moody with him… this is how it is now.
It’s as if they already wake up together,
they are the first and last person to
speak to each other daily.
At first, you don’t see anything wrong
with that, you come to think that they
are getting to know each other better;
but are they?
If you are talking all the time, how will
you know if he likes you? On the day
and time he calls you, do you leave
everything aside to answer? You know
what this is? Girlfriend on call.
A girlfriend on call has a lot in
common with a nurse on call. They
normally don’t have fixed work hours
and therefore have limited time for
themselves. She has to stay awake
at dawn, work on weekends and
holidays. Her job is very important
but at the same time unappreciated
in the market. The surgeon also has
hard working hours but by no means
is he unappreciated in the market, on
the contrary, they earn a lot more than
nurses.
The difference is not only in the years
of study and the achieved diplomas,
but also the availability of the two.
One only works during the surgery,
the other works all the time. One is
not available for everyone, their client
has to schedule a time to see him and
even then he is usually available only
for specifically a few hours a week.
I’m not trying to belittle the work of a
nurse on call, I’m trying to make an
analogy with relationships. If you are
always available for your boyfriend,
what incentive does he have to
conquer you? The message you give
him is that you are already in the palm
of his hand.
The same applies to wives. If you are
calling your husband all the time, what
incentive does he have to call you?
And you know that nice feeling of
longing that existed when you dated?
You will never be able to have it if you
want to be in touch with him all the
time.
Longing does good to the relationship,
it increases his desire to see you and
to please you, it makes him think of
you more often and plan a [near] future
by your side… longing makes a man
want to marry you sooner. :) The less
he has of you, the more he will want
you.
Mrs Cristiane Cardoso