Travel Antics Issue 2 | Page 26

FINDING LOVE IN LONDON Tinder, singles nights, dating pro- files there’s no doubt that finding love in this modern age can be very tricky, particularly if you pre- fer meeting your new love the old fashioned way, in a bar surround- ed by those of the opposite sex. Although this can be an incredibly nerve racking for many. But never fear becasue Johnny Cas- sell, dating guru and die-hard ro- mantic is here to help. He tells us how to put aside your fears to help you find the love of your life. It’s resultantly a great place to work out your type, and it will attracts the most proactive, forward-thinking and success- ful examples of that. It’s also hard to get from place to place and dates can get brutally expensive, but if you’re a go-getter and you’re looking to come to London to progress, or just for the experience, if you find love it will likely be with someone who wants the best for themselves. And that can only be a good thing. You spend a lot of time building the confidence of men who find What is it like looking for love in approaching women a daunting London? experience. What advice would you give to someone looking to It’s actually quite easy when you know find love in London who isn’t very what you are looking for. The problem is confident at approaching women? not finding love, but people being aware of the qualities they are looking for in a potential partner. Believe it or not, the exercises I give my students to address this problem prove that ‘knowing their type’is something that actually find pretty difficult. This is be- cause we don’t actually think about it in great detail. Therefore there is no aware- ness. We’ve been sold this Disney story of “ooh, one day we will just magically meet some- one.” And yes maybe one day you will. But without qualifying a potential partner properly, it may just fizzle out, or you may have the wrong first impression of them. London is a great playground in which to test this out. There’s loads of different dis- tricts with different types of cultures, like the big money people wandering around Covent Garden or the centre, or the hip- per, more Bohemian types in Soho, Cam- den or Hackney. | Page 25 You have to understand, if you’re going up to women in a bar in London, some- one richer tried it before and someone more successful will try it after. You have to mark yourself out as different from the get-go. And it’s that change from the normal drudgery of guys approaching, something I call “pattern-breaking” in my courses, that will start to help you devel- op your confidence when making the ac- tual approach. If you’re not very confident, it’s only be- cause you know deep down that you aren’t really investing in you. Maybe you’re out of shape and kind of in deni- al about dodging that gym membership. Maybe you had some academic knock- backs and have been considering taking that course for close to a decade. Maybe you hang out with negative people who make you the butt of every joke. Either way, there are active decisions you can make long before you’re even Page 26 |