THRIVING Melanin Family Magazine September 2018 | Page 28

MOMMY & DADDY TIME
Schools Back!
It’s Mommy & Daddy Time!
I don’t know about you but I am SUPER EXCITED for the
kids to go back to school, not because they bother me
really because they eat so dang much! I mean I don’t
understand why their bodies don’t continue to work on that
school eating schedule? Why are they hungry every 1 ½?
Why are they always looking for snacks? My daughter used
to go to school without eating breakfast and sometimes no
lunch the ENTIRE DAY by choice, but when she was home
for the summer she ate every 2 hours, I’m like “What’s going
on here?” I’m honestly not saving any money by sending
them back to school because I have to pay for lunch there
as well, I catch no breaks when it comes to the children and
their eating habits.
Another reason I am happy the kids are back in school is
because I get to spend more ALONE time with my husband.
Nothing like being able to just BE with the one you love and
not have to worry about the children busting in your room
asking “What Ya’ll doing in there? Or the really creepy stuff
they do like stand outside your door and not say anything,
listening for your every move. Quite honestly in the summer
it can become really difficult to spend time with your
significant other to the point where you may neglect each 
other because you are so focused on doing family activities.
Be sure to make time to be with one another, although
there are many other aspects to being in a relationship,
intimacy is still extremely important and I’m not just
speaking about sex.
Watching movies, going for walks, having conversations
about topics other than the children, holding hands, hugging
and kissing are all forms of intimacy that should remain as a
part of your relationship.
Some of you may not like this, however for some families
creating a schedule is the only way that everyone gets
equal time with one another. I would recommend scheduling
an evening for just you and your spouse one day during
each week for date night and at least two hours per day for
the two of you to remain connected. I mean we love the
kids, but at some point we have to love our relationships
more because it will be just the two of us once they are out
living their own lives. The goal is to remain a tight unit of
love, laughter, fun, spontaneity, joy and happiness just from
BEing with one another.
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