The Well Magazine Summer 2012 - Page 6

Living Well Reconciliation: Freedom in Forgiveness How a journey to Alabama led to peace and forgiveness for a son By John W. Fountain The following is an excerpt from the book, Dear Dad: Reflections on Fatherhood by John W. Fountain. This can also be found in his memoir, True Vine: A Young Black Man’s Journey of Faith, Hope and Clarity. e drove southwest on In ѕÉÍхє€àÔ°¡•…‘•‘½Ý¸Ñ¡”•¹‘±•Í́¡¥¡Ý…äÑ½Ý…ɐٕɝɕ•¸¥¸Ñ¡”)Õ±äÍÕ¸¸%Ё݅́„±½¹œ‘É¥Ù”™É½´Y¥É¥¹¥„Ñ¼±…‰…µ„¸5äÝ¥™”°5½¹¥„°…¹µäå½Õ¹•ÍЁͽ¸…¹$Ý•É”µ…­¥¹œÑ¡”‘É¥Ù”Ñ¡…ЁÍÕµµ•È½˜€ÄääԁѼµä™…Ñ¡•ËŠé¡½µ•Ñ½Ý¸°Ý¡•É”¡¥Ìµ½Ñ¡•È…¹Í½µ”½˜¡¥ÌÍ¥‰±¥¹ÌÍÑ¥±°±¥Ù•¸5䁕±‘•ÍЁͽ¸¡…Á±•…‘•Ý¥Ñ µ”Ñ¼…±±½Ü¡¥´Ñ¼±¥Ù”Ý¥Ñ ¡¥Ìµ½Ñ¡•È€¡µä™¥ÉÍЁݥ™”¤…¹½Õȁ‘…՝¡Ñ•È¸Q•…əձ±ä°$…Ù”¥¸Ñ¼¡¥ÌÝ¥Í¡•Ì°Ñ¡½Õ ±•…ɱäÕ¹‘•ÉÍх¹‘¥¹œÑ¡…ЁµäÍ½»Šé‘•Í¥É”Ñ¼±•…Ù”µä¡½Õ͕¡½±Ý…́¥¹ÍÑ¥…Ñ•‰ä¡¥Ìµ½Ñ¡•ËŠé‘•Í¥É”Ñ¼‘¥ÍÉÕÁЁµä±¥™”…¹äÝ…äÍ¡”½Õ±¸%¸Ñ…­¥¹œÑ¡”©½ˆ…Ёѡ”]…Í¡¥¹Ñ½¸A½Íа5½¹¥„°µäå½Õ¹•ÍЁͽ¸°…¹$¡…µ½Ù•Ñ¼Y¥É¥¹¥„°Ý¡•É”±¥™”Ý…́…±µ•È‰ÕЁݡ•É”Í¥µµ•É¥¹œÅՕÍÑ¥½¹ÌÑ¡…Ё¡…±½¹œÙ•á•µ”‰•…¸Ñ¼É•ÍÕə…”°‰•¥¹œ™½È…¹ÍݕÉ̸Q¡•É”Ý•É”ÍÑ¥±°Õ¹É•Í½±Ù•¥ÍÍՕ̰Ñ¡¥¹ÌÑ¡…Ё$ÍÑ¥±°É…ÁÁ±•Ý¥Ñ °Ñ¡”­¥¹‘́½˜Ñ¡¥¹ÌÑ¡…Ё$Ý½Õ±¡…Ù”Ñ¼½µ”Ñ¼Ñ•ÉµÌÝ¥Ñ ¥¸Ñ¡”Ý…äÑ¡…Ё•Ù•É䁵…¸Ý¡¼½Ù•É½µ•Ì¡¥ÌÁ…ÍЁµÕÍЁ½µ”™…”µÑ¼µ™…”Ý¥Ñ ¡¥Ì‘•µ½¹Ì¸$¡……±±•µä™…Ñ¡•ËŠéµ½Ñ¡•È°ÕÑ¡•É¥¹”)…­Í½¸°µ½¹Ñ¡Ì•…ɱ¥•È…¹É•¥¹Ñɽ‘Ս•µå͕±˜¸ÑՅ±±ä°¥ÐÝ…́µ½É”±¥­”¥¹Ñɽ‘Ս¥¹œµå͕±˜™½ÈÑ¡”™¥ÉÍЁѥµ”¸Q¡”½¹±äÑ¥µ”Ñ¡…Ёݔ¡…µ•ÐÁɕ٥½ÕͱäÝ…́ѡ…Ё‰É¥•˜•¹½Õ¹Ñ•ÈÍ¥áѕ•¸å•…É́•…ɱ¥•ÈÝ¡•¸$¡…½µ”Ñ¼ٕɝɕ•¸™½Èµä™…Ñ¡•ËŠé™Õ¹•É…°¸Q¡¥ÌÑ¥µ”$Ý…́‘É¥Ù¥¹œµå͕±˜Ñ¼ٕɝɕ•¸…¹¡½Á¥¹œÑ¼™¥¹…¹ÍݕÉ́…‰½ÕЁµä™…Ñ¡•È…¹Ñ¡”Í¥‘”½˜µä™…µ¥±äÑ¡…ЁÕÀÕ¹Ñ¥°Ñ¡•¸¡…‰••¸Á•É™•ÐÍÑɅ¹•É́Ѽµ”¸Q¡½Õ $Ý…́½¸„Ù½å…”™½È…¹ÍݕÉÌ°$…´¹½ÐÍÕɔÑ¡…Ё$­¹•Ü…±°Ñ¡”ÅՕÍÑ¥½¹Ì¸]¡•¸$¡…ÍÁ½­•¸Ý¥Ñ 5É̸)…­Í½¸°Í¡”Í••µ•‘•±¥¡Ñ•…Ёѡ”Ñ¡½Õ¡Ð½˜µ”Ù¥Í¥Ñ¥¹œÝ¥Ñ Ñ¡”™…µQ¡”]•±°5……饹”€¼MÕµµ•È€ÈÀÄȁ¥±ä¥¸ٕɝɕ•¸¸$…±Í¼Í•¹Í•¡•ÈÍ¡½¬…™Ñ•È…±°Ñ¡½Í”å•…ÉÌ°Ñ¼½¹”‘…äÁ¥¬ÕÀÑ¡”Ñ•±•Á¡½¹”…¹¡•…ȁѡ”Ù½¥”½¸Ñ¡”½Ñ¡•È•¹¥¹Ñɽ‘Ս”¡¥µÍ•±˜…́)½¡¸½Õ¹Ñ…¥¸¸Q¡…Ё݅́չ‘•ÉÍх¹‘…‰±”°•ÍÁ•¥…±±äÝ¡•¸Ñ¡”½¹±ä)½¡¸½Õ¹Ñ…¥¸Ý¡¼¡…•Ù•ÈÉ•…±±ä‰••¸„Á…ÉЁ½˜¡•È±¥™”Ý…́ѡ”Í½¸Ý¡¼¹½Ü±…䁑•……¹‰ÕÉ¥•™½Èµ…¹äå•…É̸Q¡”±½Í•ÈÝ”‘ɕ܁Ѽٕɝɕ•¸°Ñ¡”µ½É”$Ý½ÉÉ¥•…‰½ÕЁݡ•Ñ¡•Èµä™…Ñ¡•ËŠé™½±­ÌÝ½Õ±½¹Í¥‘•Èµ”Ñ¼‰”™…µ¥±ä½ÈÝ¡•Ñ¡•ÈÑ¡•äÝ½Õ±Í¥µÁ±äÍ•”µ”…́ͽµ”µ¥á•µÕÀå½Õ¹œµ…¸ÍÑÉ՝±¥¹œÝ¥Ñ Í½µ”¡¥±‘¡½½…¹á¥•Ñ䁽ٕȁ¡¥Ì™…Ñ¡•ËŠé…‰Í•¹”¥¸¡¥Ì±¥™”¸$…±Í¼Ý½¹‘•É•Ý¡•Ñ¡•È$½Õ±¡…¹‘±”‰•¥¹œ¥¸±…‰…µ„°Ý¡•É”$¡…¹½Ð‰••¸Í¥¹”Ñ¡”™Õ¹•É…°¥¸€ÄäÜ丁Q¡”±½Í•ÈÝ”½Ð°Ñ¡”µ½É”Ñ¡”¥¹Ñ•É¹…°ÍÑÉ՝±”‰½¥±•¥¹Í¥‘”…¹Ñ¡”µ½É”½±™••±¥¹Ì°µ•µ½É¥•Ì°…¹Á…ÍЁ¡ÕÉÑ͕́•µ•Ñ¼ÍÕə…”…́¥˜µä±¥™”Ý•É”™±…Í¡¥¹œ‰•™½É”µä•å•Ì¸ƒŠq …‰”°$‘½»ŠeЁ­¹½Ü¥˜$…¸¡…¹‘±”Ñ¡¥Ì³Št$Í…¥Ñ¼µäÝ¥™”°™¥Ù”µ½¹Ñ¡ÌÁɕ¹…¹Ð…¹Í¥ÑÑ¥¹œ…É½Í́™É½´µ”½¸Ñ¡”Á…Í͕¹•ËŠéͥ‘”¸ƒŠq)½¡¸°¥ÓŠe±°‰”…±°É¥¡Ð¸e½Õȁ™…Ñ¡•ËŠéµ½Ñ¡•ÈÍ••µ•¡…ÁÁäÝ¡•¸å½Ô…±±•°É¥¡ÐÿŠtƒŠqe•… »ŠtƒŠq¹Ý¡•¸å½ÔÑ½±¡•ÈÑ¡…Ёå½ÔÝ…¹Ñ•Ñ¼½µ”…¹Ù¥Í¥Ð°Ý¡…Ё‘¥Í¡”Í…äÿŠt$Í¥¡•¸ƒŠq$­¹½Ü°$­¹½Ü°$©ÕÍЁ‘½»ŠeЁչ‘•ÉÍх¹Ý¡ä¹½‰½‘䁑½Ý¸¡•É”•Ù•È…±±•µ”½È…µ”Ñ¼Í•”µ”½È…¹åÑ¡¥¹œ¸$µ•…¸°¥ÐÝ…́…±µ½ÍЁ±¥­”$‘¥‘»ŠeЁ•á¥Íи$‘½»ŠeЁ݅¹ÐÑ¡•´Ñ¡¥¹­¥¹œÑ¡…Ё$Ý…¹Ð¹½Ñ¡¥¹œ™É½´ƒŠe•´³Št$Í…¥°µä…¹•ÈÁ•É½±…Ñ¥¹œ°Ñ¡½Õ µ½Íѱ䁅Ёѡ”É½½Ð½˜¥ÐÝ…́¡ÕÉи!ÕÉЁ…¹Á…¥¸¸ƒŠq±°$Ý…¹Ð¥Ì„Á¥ÑÕɔ½˜µä‘…°…¹Ñ¼…ͬµäÉ…¹‘µ½Ñ¡•ÈÍ½µ”ÅՕÍÑ¥½¹Ì³Št$¡Õ™™•¸ƒŠq%ӊe±°‰”…±°É¥¡Ð°)½¡¸³Št5½¹¥„Í…¥°ÉՉ‰¥¹œµä¡…¹¸ƒŠq%ӊe±°‰”…±°É¥¡Ð»ŠtÉ¥Ù¥¹œ¥¹Ñ¼ٕɝɕ•¸Ý…́±¥­”‘É¥Ù¥¹œÑ¡É½Õ „±½Õ½˜Íµ½­”¥¹Ñ¼µäÁ…ÍиQ¡”É½…‘́±½½­•ÍÑɅ¹•±ä™…µ¥±¥…ȁ¥¸„Í•¹Í”°…́‘¥Ñ¡”Á½±¥”Íхѥ½¸ÕÁѽݸÝ¡•É”€Ø()\()%Ё݅́½¹±äÑ¡½Í”Ý½É‘́ѡ…Ё$™½Õ¹µ½ÍЁ±¥‰•É…Ñ¥¹œÑ¡…Ё$±•…ɱäÉ•µ•µ‰•ÈÍ…她œèƒŠq$±½Ù”å½Ô°…³Št$Í…¥°Ý¥Á¥¹œ…Ý…äÑ•…ÉÌ°ƒŠq¹$™½É¥Ù”å½Ô»Št()((