The Well Magazine Summer 2012 - Page 14

ova and I met in college when she tried out for a dance team of which I was a member. On the day of try outs, I was responsible for recording everyone who was auditioning for the team. I remember recording Nova. Watching her dance was breathtaking. Nova had a style about her that was unique. Needless to say, she made one of N bondage and at the mercy of my abuser. My relationship with my abuser was physically, emotionally, and verbally abusive. I thought I had met the one. He was charming, attentive, and caring. After much time had been invested in the relationship, those qualities I thought he possessed, no longer existed. He turned into someone I didn’t know, someone he never showed me—his true self. I had mistaken him choosing my clothes for me, as his way of caring about me. I had mistaken him telling me that certain people were not my friends as his way of looking out for my best interest. I had mistaken him Her friend’s murder gave her the strength to escape abuse and inspired her to help others be free the finest dance teams on the campus at Illinois State University. The dance team was like a family. We spent several hours every week with each other practicing for events. I remember when Nova and I went shopping for pajamas for our dance team’s fashion show. Nova and I had to model in kiddy pajamas. The skit was about us being kids who did not want to go to sleep. In the skit, you could see the mom putting us to bed and as she walked out the room, the music came on and Nova and I jumped on our beds, laughed and danced. As the mother returned to find us awake and out of our beds, she waved a belt in front of us. We quickly jumped back in our beds to avoid the punishment. Quite often, this memory of Nova replays over and over in my head. When I reflect upon my own childhood, I remember life with no real worries or burdens. I also think about how Nova’s son Noah will never experience having his mother come in his ɽ՜ȁȁȁͅ䁝и9لȁ՝ѕȁلݕɔչ͡ЁѼѠȁѵи!ȁͽ9݅́չͱȁٕɕݥѠх́ɽͥ她Ѽ݅́ѡȁЁͥѕȸ9هé൉ɥ݅́ɕѕȁѡɑ́́ɕѱ䁅݅ѥɥQ́͡9هéѠɕЁѡɕѥ͡$݅́9ѕ́Ѽͥٔɕѥ͡Ё$݅́ѡЁ$ٕ݅́$Ёɕ锁ѡЁ݅́ݕɔɕѕѼQ]5饹MյȀȁ݅䁙ɽѡѥ٥ѥ́$݅́ٽٕ́́݅䁽͡ݥѡЁٕѥݥѠ$хͭѼٔ䁩́́݅Ѽɽ٥ȁȁ$ххѱ䁍ݡ$݅́݅䁙ɽѡ͔́́݅䁽ɔɵ$Ё܁ѡɕ́ȁ݅ɹͥ́ͥͥٔͽȁɕѥ͡$ٕȁ͕ͥٔɕѥ͡ɽݥٕȁѡ՝ЁЁݽձͽѡ$ݽձٕȁչѕȸЁ݅ЁѼѡɕѡЁ$݅́ͥٔɕѥ͡Ё$Ѽ$݅́Ʌ͕͡]ѡɕѥ͡$ЁٕѡѡЁѼ݅́䁙ձиȁЁѡѕɥɕѥ͡%Ё݅́Ёչѥ$ɐЁ9هéչѥ䁑ѠѡЁ$ѼɕɅѥ́Ѽٔ$ѡЁѡ՝ȁѠ݅́Ʌ䰁$ٔЁٕͅ䁱͔Ё͕ٕ́݅ѼЁЁи]́ѕȁ9هéͥ$݅́Ѡѡ́ո݅́ѕɕ͕Ѽѡ䁡䁵䁅͕ȸ$ȁ䁱ѡ$ѥٔ$ձЁٔѕ݅䁥$ѥՕѼѡ͕ɕЁɑͥٔɕѥ͡Ѽ͕Ё͔$݅́͡$Ѽѕͽ՝݅́՝$ȁՑ䁱ȸ$ɕ镐ѡ́݅́ͥЁ݅́Ё́Ʌ݅͡Ѽ٥́ͽ́$ɕа䁙ɥ́ɕ]Ѡѡȁٔа$݅́Ѽ()$((0