The Well Magazine Fall/Winter 2013 - Page 19

tems. Home base represents the perspective from which family members learn to view and interact with the world. It represents an extension of the family home where members interact with life as representatives of the family team. The family decision-makers including parents, custodial or non-custodial caretakers, or elder siblings are presented as the managers and coaches whose jobs are to work together to prepare the team to successfully navigate life’s opposing forces as productive contributors to the family team and the game. The opposing team represents past, present, or potential life events that cause familial distress. These events may be positive or negative, acute or chronic, anticipated or unforeseen. The opposing team dugout represents the line-up of possible life scenarios, and the pitcher’s mound represents the place from which opposition is launched. Metaphorically, the object is for the team to face the opposition and round all their life bases to score despite opposition. In other words, families learn to work together to reach individual and family-life goals by turning opposition into opportunity. Team members understand that no matter what happens when facing opposition, whether they score or strike out, they can always return home to regroup and prepare in a safe environment until the next time at bat. The SAFE at Home Base facilitator-trainer represents the home plate umpire. The facilitator-trainer is responsible for “calling the plays” to ensure the group agenda remains focused and on schedule, and is primary presenter of class topics, information and discussion. As umpire, the facilitator-trainer interacts objectively with families to ensure that the class is a safe environment for family members to bond, celebrate, and approach painful topics as needed. Additionally, the facilitator-trainer may interrupt conflicts, maintain order, and help families strategize ways to best apply concepts to address opposition. power when each member is able to let that relationship transcend to the family unit. Families don’t fall out of love. Maybe couples fall in or out of love, but relationships forged by blood and spirit are connected down through generations. Life situations can lead to conflicts that strain these relationships (stress, financial problems, illness, break-ups, separation, divorce, death, legal problems, addictions, etc.). People may start acting out to get their way, or doing things that threaten to break the family down. People may get mad at each other and get so caught up in the argument that they put the love on hold for a while, but family will always be family. Sometimes families need to be reminded that they love each other. When couples with children separate, they need a reminder that they share a common love—their children. Researchers say that being together gives families strength. God says strengths overcome weaknesses and the strong cover the weak with their strength to make the unit strong. Researchers say love is healing and brings acceptance and unconditional positive regard. God says love covers a multitude of faults. Researchers say that perspective and perception shape attitudes as either positive or negative, and attitude determines direction. God says that vision determines destiny, and the God-kind of faith r