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10 Top Relationship Tips
What’s the key to a successful relationship?
Some might think that’s the million dollar
question. Sometimes it’s just the simple
things, that we easily forget or think are
unimportant that hold the key to a healthy
and happy relationship. Read through the
helpful tips below on how to make your
relationship go the distance.

1. Without quality time together, your rela-
tionship will not survive. Aim to devote at
least half an hour a night, and at least one
day a month when the two of you spend
time exclusively together.
2. You both want to feel secure within the
relationship. A good relationship is built
on compromise and a lot of give and take
from both of you.
3. Often those little things that first attract-
ed you to your partner can turn into nasty
annoying habits. Learn to love your part-
ner warts and all. Don’t try to change them
into something they’re not, after all you fell
in love with them just the way they were.
4. Money is one of the top conflicts be-
tween most couples. For the relationship
to work, you need to address your finances
and maybe even work out a budget.
5. Learn to argue well. Never say some-
thing to your partner that you wouldn’t
want to hear said back. Just remember, the
one good thing they say about arguing, is
the making up afterwards.
6. Communication is vital to all healthy
relationships. Listen to your partner and
avoid blame and judgement. Don’t let your
emotions dictate your behavior. Remem-
ber just talking things over can help you to
both have a deeper understanding of each
other.
7. Sort out your sex life, it may start to go
downhill over the years, don’t just accept
it. As soon as you notice it, address it with
your partner and work out why, and what
to do to bring back the passion. Maybe one
of you prefers more sex than the other.
Why not experiment with new ideas in the
bedroom. Role play, dressing up, or maybe
take your sex life out of the bedroom and
try new places. The introduction of marital
aids into the relationship can also help to
spice things up. Whatever you decide, re-
member communication is vital.
8. Try to keep your dependence and in-
dependence in balance. Tell your partner
how much you need them, but don’t get
to dependent on them and cling to them
all the time, as that can make your partner
feel trapped. On the flip side of this, don’t
allow your partner to think you don’t need
them, by going or doing things without
them. Try to keep a happy and healthy bal-
ance between the two.