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COMMUNITY tvc.dsj.org | February 6, 2018 5 Importance of Advance Directives “My comfort in my suffering is this: Your promise preserves my life.” Psalm 119:50 In last month’s article, “New Year, New Resolutions: Planning Your Lega- cy,” we stressed that end-of-life planning deserves your restful, intentional focus. Catholic Cemeteries is here to guide you in understanding and accomplish- ing essential end-of-life plans: burial property selection, Catholic Funeral Services, an Advance Directive and Es- tate Planning, all within the embrace of Catholic Church teachings. Today we focus on a critical legal document which every person 18 years and older should complete, have on file, and discuss with loved ones, doctors and clergy. Do you have an Advance Health Care Directive (AHCD)? An AHCD allows you to control the types of medical procedures you want to be provided or withheld in the event of an incapacitating illness or injury. Medical treatments are never required. An AHCD also allows you to desig- nate a person(s), or agent, who will make sure that your wishes are carried out. This person might be a completely dif- ferent person than the one you choose to attend to your financial matters. Without an AHCD, the courts or others may have the power over such decisions. Educate yourself about Palliative Care medications used at end of life that keep people aware, but out of pain. Discover what artificial nutrition and hydration, CPR, and other medical treatments are used for and when they are a bridge to restore health. Consider attending our workshop: End-of-Life Decisions – A Catholic Perspective. Know that your health care agent(s) may always contact a priest for guidance when faced with a difficult decision on your behalf. Cindy Safe, former Executive Direc- tor and founding board member for Coda Alliance, has given advance di- rective workshops for the past 15 years. People often express that they don’t know how to begin the discussion with their loved ones. So Coda developed a deck of cards, called “Go Wish,” which features 36 goals that people at end-of-life want to achieve. To identify and prioritize your own end-of-life wishes and begin having these important conversations, play GoWis h online or purchase a deck of cards in English or Spanish (codaalliance.org). Cards are available for purchase at our workshop. Cindy Safe believes that death has become “medicalized” – most people either die in hospitals or other medical facilities instead of at home – the place most people prefer to die. Do your loved ones know your preference? It is absolutely essential to have con- versations with your appointed agents and your loved ones about your end of life preferences. Rest in Peace, Florence Marquez Rest in Peace, Sister Noella Cavallero, BVM On January 5, Flor- ence Marquez, widow of Deacon Phil Marquez, passed away. Survived by her children, Phil Marquez, Jr.; Barbara Marquez (David Ginsburg); Ernie Marquez (Kim); and Becky Marquez. Florence is also survived by her seven grandchildren and one great-grandchild as well as her siblings, Isabel Marquez, Rina Flores, and Joe Marmolejo. For 86 years, Florence led a vibrant and giving life and was active in many church and community service projects including serving as a trustee on the Mount Pleasant School Board, and serving as founding member and President of the Grail Development Corporation. Her brilliant smile and joyful laughter will be missed by all. In lieu of flowers, donations may be made to the Alzheimer’s Association at www.alz.org. Sister Noella Caval- lero, BVM, 98, died De- cember 26, at Caritas Center in Dubuque, Iowa. In t he Diocese of San Jose, Sister Noella taught second grade at Saint Leo the Great in San Jose, Calif. She taught elementary school in Council Bluffs, Iowa; Kealia, Kauai, Hawaii; Butte, Montana; and San Francisco and Sac- ramento, Calif., where she also served as principal. She entered the BVM congregation in 1936, from Saint Brigid Parish, San Francisco. She professed First Vows in 1939, and Final Vows in 1944. She was preceded in death by her parents and sister, Elda Saccone. She is survived by brother-in-law, Joseph Saccone, Sr.; nieces; nephews; and the Sisters of Charity of the BVM, with whom she shared life for 81 years. By Kathy Fanger After your Advance Directive has been completed, signed and witnessed, give copies to your doctors, agents and family members. Read over and update it every few years. To receive our free Legacy Planning Guide – a comprehen- sive step-by-step booklet to document important end-of-life information, or make a free appointment, call (650) 428- 3730 or visit www.ccdsj.org. Attend our free workshops Catholic Cemeteries hosts work- shops to assist you in accomplishing end-of-life plans in alignment with Catholic Church teachings. Give the gift of peace of mind to yourself and your loved ones by having these documents in place and with your estate plans. For more information please contact Kathy Fanger at (650) 428-3730 or cemetery- info@dsj.org. Advance Directives March 3 • 10 a.m. – 12 p.m. Saint Joseph of Cupertino Parish 10110 N. De Anza Blvd., Cupertino. Presenter: Cindy Safe Learn about this essential document which every person 18 years of age and older should have. It names a person(s) to speak and carry out medical wishes if you are unable to do so. Cindy Safe discusses important considerations and case studies. She walks you step- by-step through a sample form. Free. End-of-Life Decisions – A Catholic Perspective February 10 • 10 a.m. – 12 p.m. Saint Francis of Assisi Parish 5111 San Felipe Road, San Jose Presenter: Deacon Ray Gans Choices at end of life present unique challenges, particularly within a com- plex and technologically advanced society. Physical death is perceived within modern society as the ultimate human tragedy. This presentation will explore end-of-life choices within the context of faith in Jesus and the moral tradition of the Church. Free. Planning Your Christian Funeral February 21 • 6:30 p.m. Hospitality; 7 – 8 p.m. Presentation Holy Family Parish 4848 Pearl Avenue, San Jose Presenter: Father Christopher Bennett Come learn of the history and comfort of our Catholic Funeral ritu- als (Vigil, Mass and Committal) and the services and options at Catholic Cemeteries. Pre-planning gives peace of mind to yourself and your loved ones. Free. St. Clare’s Retreat 2381 Laurel Glen Road, Soquel, CA 95073 February 23-25 Women’s Silent Retreat Fr. Martin Cain Begin Your Lenten Journey with St. Ignatius: “Finding God in All Things” March 2-4 Fr. Theodore Lange Love’s Second Name is Mercy Women’s Silent Retreat March 9-11 Fr. Michael Barry, SSCC Men’s & Women’s Silent Retreat March 16-18 Fr. Tom Allender, SJ St. Joseph the Great Giant Women’s Silent Retreat March 23-25 Palm Sunday Women’s Silent Retreat Fr. Joseph Nassal, CPPS At the Crossroads: Refl ections at the Intersection of Death & Life For more information: 831-423-8093 Email: stclaresretreatcenter@gmail.com Web site: www.stclaresretreatcenter.com Staffed by Franciscan Missionary Sisters of Our Lady of Sorrows