The Soultown! Volume III: Issue 8 AUGUST 2019 | Page 25

DEAR GABBY DEAR GABBY Female Advice Columnist ----------------------------------------------- Learn more about Queen Gabby’s advice at http://www.thesoultown.com/dear-gabby.html Email Me: [email protected] Dear Gabby, I am a real gyrl. I love lashes, acrylic nails, makeup, dresses and everything that has to do with being a gyrl. My best homie is a gyrl too, but she’s kinda lame. How can I help her add some life to her lifeless look, attitude, and overall character? (San Jose, CA) ~ ‘Bout this life Dear Bout this life, Girl, I can’t stand this situation. Especially when it’s time to go out and you’re all dolled while your homegirl looks basic. If it was me, I would try to ease in little makeup tips. For instance, I have a makeup subscription box. I get makeup once a month, which means I have too much, so I am always giving products away. Every time I see her, I would have a new product for her to try, and maybe she will grow a liking to something. Also, you can plan “Girls Day.” Make sure it’s at a nail shop or some kinda shopping center so that you can influence her overall look. Bottom line, some women like all the extra, and some would rather be low key. There is a time and place for everything. I find that when I hype my friends up they are more likely to keep the momentum up. So a simple “Girl you look bomb” can go a long way. ~ Gabby ------------------------------------- On to the Next, Please Dear Gabby, Why do men waste our time? I guess I should be asking Big Q and I will, but Gabby, what do you think? Why do men waste so much of a woman’s time? Why do men play so many games? Why can’t men just be honest about what they want? Why don’t men already know what they want? Help! (Redwood City, IA) ~ Sick & Tired Dear Sick & Tired, When you find out please let me know! My time has been wasted more times than I can count, and I’ve come up with nothing. I will say this… dating for some people means feeling out a person to see if you like them. After guys figure they don’t like you, it’s on to the next. This could be after one week, or after two years I guess. It’s unfortunate because women mostly date with a purpose. We are just hoping that the time we invested didn’t go in vain, but it does. Some women are more patient than others, so guys get over because they don’t have to commit right away. This generation sucks girl. Marriage is pretty much obsolete and the “waste my time” button has been pressed by men too often. They are indecisive. They have no clue what they want. Someone who has an idea will find you one day, so just play the game until the games are over. ~ Gabby ------------------------------------- Dear Gabby, Can I have a baby by myself? What I mean is it okay for me to want to have a child without the drama that comes from the “baby daddy”? I am capable of financially taking care of the child without the help of public assistance. (Cedar Rapids, IA) ~ Out Here On My Own Dear Out Here On My Own, Quick answer, yes you can have a baby by yourself. Will it be hard? AF, but it’s doable. My mother had two children by herself. Come to think of it more women are doing it these days. It’s great that you don’t have to rely on any government assistance. I wish that more people would just wait to have children until they are financially stable. My question is who are you going to have a child with? And can they NOT help you raise one? If the answer is no, then girl choose another baby daddy. Kids eventually have questions, and where’s my daddy is going to be one. I’m not saying don’t pursue your dream in having a child, but why would you want to make life harder than it already is? Everyone needs help. ~ Gabby ------------------------------------- Dear Gabby, My man posted a photo of us on social media without my permission. I do not belong to any social media platforms. I do not have anything to hide, but if I wanted a photo of me out there, I know what to do. How can I share with him my disappointment without sounding like a control freak and without sounding as mad as I am? (EPA, CA) ~ Fuming! Dear, Fuming!, This happened to me before, and I completely understand your frustration. The fact that you don’t even have social media should have alerted him that you are not into that kind of thing. I would communicate with him, and have him take it down. Explain to him your reason, and follow up with letting him know you’re not trying to hide the relationship, and that social media is just not your thing. Reason being, I can see him or any other man taking it the wrong way. I would also ask him why he posted it? Does he just want to share y’all love with the world, or what? It’s not a big enough deal to get in an argument over, but bring it up so it won’t happen again. Hell, for all he knows, you could be on the run, and here he is snitching without knowing he’s doing so. ~ Queen Gabby , Aug. 2019 • The Soultown International Magazine • Celebrating 2 years • Connecting Our Cultures to Our Cyber & Conscious Communities • thesoultown.com 25