The Science Behind the Law of Attraction Magazine October Magazine, 2017 - Page 54

4. Comparing yoursel f and your l if e t o ot hers. One very common and destructive daily habit is to constantly compare your life and yourself to other people and their lives. You compare cars, houses, jobs, shoes, money, relationships, social popularity and so on. And at the end of the day you pummel your self-esteem to the ground and you create a lot of negative feelings. How t o overcome t his habit : Replace that destructive habit with two other habits. - - Compare yoursel f t o yoursel f . First, instead of comparing yourself to other people, create the habit of comparing yourself to yourself. See how much you have grown, what you have achieved and what progress you have made towards your goals. Thi s habit has the benefit of creating gratitude, appreciation and kindness towards yourself as you observe how far you have come, the obstacles you have overcome and the good stuff you have done. You feel good about yourself without having to think less of other people. Be kind. When you judge and criticize people, you tend to judge and criticize yourself more (often almost automatically). Be kind to other people and you will tend to be more kind and helpful to yourself. Focus on the positive things in yourself and in the people around you. This way you become OK with yourself and the people in your world instead of creating differences in your mind. And remember, you can?t win if you keep comparing. Consciously realizing this can be helpful. No matter what you do, you can pretty much always find someone else in the world that is better at something than you. 5. Focusing on t he negat ive det ail s in l if e. Seeing the negative aspects of whichever situation you are in and dwelling on those details is a sure way to make yourself unhappy. It will also drag down the mood for everyone around you. How t o overcome t his habit : Overcoming this habit can be tricky. One thing that has worked for me is to kick the perfectionism habit. You accept that things and situations will have their upsides and downsides rather than thinking that all details have to positive and excellent. You accept things as they are. This way you can let go emotionally and mentally of what is negative instead of dwelling on it and making mountains out of molehills. Another thing that works is simply to focus on being constructive. Instead of focusing on dwelling and whining about the negative detai, you can do so by asking better questions. Questions like: "How can I turn this negative thing into something helpful or positive?" If I am faced with what I start thinking is a problem, I may ask myself: who cares? I thenmost often realize that this isn?t really a problem in the long run after all. 6. Limit ing l if e because you bel ieve t he worl d revol ves around you. If you think that the world revolves around you and you hold yourself back because you are afraid what people may think or say about you, then you are putting some big limits on your life. How? Well, you can become less open to trying new things and growing. You can think that the criticism and negativity you encounter is about you or that it is your fault. In reality, it could be that you think you can read people's minds. I have also found that my own shyness used to come from me thinking that Page 54 - Oct ./ Nov, 2017