The Science Behind the Law of Attraction Magazine October Magazine, 2017 - Page 53

- - - Go f or good enough. Aiming for perfection usually winds up in a project never being finished. So go for good enough instead. Don?t use it as an excuse to slack off, but simply realize that there is something called good enough and when reach that point, then you are finished with whatever you are doing. Have a deadl ine. I set deadlines for every project. About a year ago, when I was working on my second e-book, I could always find stuff to add to it. Setting a deadline gave me a kick in the butt and it is generally a good way to help you to let go of the need to polish things a bit too much. Real ize what it cost s you when you buy int o myt hs of perf ect ion. This was a very powerful reason for me to let go of perfectionism and one I tell myself still if I find thoughts of perfection pop up in my mind. By watching too many movies, listening to too many songs and just taking in what the world is telling you, it is very easy to be lulled into dreams of perfection. It sounds so good and wonderful and you want it. But in real life it clashes with reality and tends to cause much suffering and stress within you and the people around you. It can harm or possibly lead you to end relationships, jobs, projects etc., just because your expectations are out of this world. I find it very helpful to remind myself of this simple fact. 2. Living in a sea of negat ive voices. No one is an island. Who we socialize with, what we read, watch and listen to has big effect on how we feel and think. It becomes a lot harder to be happier if you let yourself be dragged down by negative voices. These voices that tell you that life will in large part always be unhappy, dangerous and filled with fear and limits. There are also voices that watch life from a negative perspective. How t o overcome t his habit : - - - Replacing those negative voices with more positive influences is very powerful. It can be like a whole new world opening up. Spend more time with positive people, inspiring music and books, movies and TV-shows that make you laugh and think about life in a new way. You can start small. For example, try reading an uplifting blog or book or listen to an audio book while eating your breakfast one morning this week instead of reading the paper or watching the morning news on TV. 3. Get t ing st uck in t he past and f ut ure. Spending much of your time in the past and reliving old painful memories, conflicts, missed opportunities and so on can hurt whole lot. And spending much of your time in the future will keep you out of your "now," Imagining how things could go wrong at work, in your relationships and with your health can build into horrifying nightmare scenarios playing over and over in your head. Not being in the "now" in life can lead to missing out on a lot of wonderful experiences. This is not good if you want to be happier. How t o overcome t his habit : It is pretty much impossible to not think about the past or the future. And it is of course important to plan for tomorrow and next year and to try to learn from your past. - - - Refrain from dwelling to much on those things rarely help. Try as best as you can to spend the rest of your time, living in the now. Just being here right now and being fully focused on these words I am reading or when you cook or eat or even work out. Focus completely on the new and don't let other negative thoughts infiltrate. Whatever I am doing I try to be there fully and not drift off into the future or past. If I find yourself drifting drift off, then focus on your breathing for a few minutes, or sit still and take in what is all around you with all your senses for a short while. You will find that this realigns your with the present moment again. Page 53 - Oct ./ Nov, 2017