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Hel l o Jul ie f rom Aust ral ia!
knowing our life?s purpose. Before we know it, our
Over t he past f ew days I have been magical l y guided t o brains are in an endless negative loop and we're
miserable.
your work and t hink you're amazing.
I have f el t an incredibl y st rong urge t o send you a
message t o ask a quest ion wit h t he hope t hat you can
hel p me. I'm 39, singl e, f eel so incredibl y l ost in my l if e
and don?t have a sense of purpose.
I am not depressed or have any ment al heal t h issues
and f eel very in t ouch wit h my spirit ual side yet I
haven?t been abl e t o f igure out my pat h.
Of t en, I f eel l ike I'm on t he verge of some sort of
breakt hrough or somet hing real l y big is going t o
happen but I just never get t here.
On t op of al l t his, I'm wondering where my part ner is.
Every t ime I go on dat es I meet peopl e wit h qual it ies I
l ike and t hen t ake al l t hose qual it ies and t ry t o put
t hem t oget her t o f ind t he right person. He st il l el udes
me.
Sorry my quest ion is so l ong-winded. I had t his real l y
big urge t o reach out t o you and I real l y hope you can
connect wit h me. Thank you so much f or t aking t he
t ime t o read t his.
Kindest regards,
Kat e
Hi Kate,
Thanks for your kind words and question.
It sounds to me like you?re on exactly the right path in
learning your life?s purpose and finding your life
partner.
Most of us believe we?ll wake up one day and know
what to do with our lives and hope Prince Charming will
show up at about the same time. Good luck with that!
What usually happens is, we figure out our life?s
purpose as we experience life events that help us
realize what inspires us and creates joy in our lives.
Keep in mind, for over 600 million years as we?ve
evolved, our brains have been hardwired for negative
thinking in order to keep us safe. In fact, ?negativity
bias? is a well-studied concept in psychology circles.
Professor John Cacioppo, PhD, while at The Ohio State
University, did a study where he showed subjects
pictures of pleasant (pizza), neutral (hair dryer) and
negative (dead cat) things and then recorded the
electrical activity in their brains as they looked at each
photo.
So, let?s pivot to what you can do to assist yourself in
finding your mate and figuring out what brings you a
sense of fulfillment.
First, do your best to form a habit of looking for how
everything is happening FOR you. When you?re feeling
a negative emotion, immediately go to a place of
curiosity. How will this enhance my life? What will I
learn? How will this play out?
Once you?re in a curious state, you?ll be inspired to
think another thought. It?s the pattern of those
inspirational thoughts that will lead you to find what
interests you. And what interests you always leads to
your life?s purpose.
This technique will also lead you to your life partner.
Do I like his personality? How is spending time with
him benefiting me? Does it make me happy? What
characteristics would I prefer?
Do your best to stay neutral and refrain from judging
people and events. Imagine you?re on the yellow brick
road in the Wizard of Oz movie. As you head towards
the Emerald City, different bricks will light up showing
you the way. You may be inspired to step on a brick
that will land you in a field of poppies or get chased by
flying monkeys. The situation isn?t good or bad, it?s just
an experience on your path to Oz (enlightenment).
Life is an adventure, enjoy the ride and remember, like
Dorothy, you (like all of us) are wearing ruby slippers
which give you all the magical powers you?ll ever
need. Expect to be delighted along the way and you'll
create the life you desire.
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Dr. Cacioppo concluded the brain reacts more strongly
to stimuli it deems negative. In other words, there is a
greater surge in brain electrical activity when
confronted with something unpleasant. This means our
attitudes are more heavily influenced by negative
things including being hard on ourselves for not
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