The Science Behind the Law of Attraction Magazine February, 2016 - Page 56

So, what do you do now? My advice is this: I know it's hard, but don't get stuck on the idea that this guy has to necessarily be the one. He might be, he might not be. Stay open to the possibility that he's the precursor to someone even better.Focus on why you like him so much. What are the qualities that attract you? What specifically do you like so much about him? Keep focusing on those things. You're refining your vibration, sending the Universe a clearer message on what you want.Keep in mind that there are many things you don't know about him, so you can't know that he's perfect for you. Trust the Universe. The Universe sees the whole picture. If you're not getting together, there's a reason. Don't force it. Every time you find yourself getting frustrated (about anything), you're working too hard. You're trying to do the Universe's job. Stop that. Don't spend all of your time obsessing about this guy, or the fact that you're single. Go do something fun, be happy. If you keep thinking about how lonely you are, the Universe cannot bring you anything but situations that make you lonely. Yes, this takes practice, but it's a lot more fun to focus on how great your life is than on the fact that you're waking up alone every morning. Of course, it is possible that as you do this, this guy that you like will end up being a match. You don't have to give up on him altogether, just be open to the possibility that he's just an indicator and someone even better is about to show up. After all, if this guy isn't a vibrational match to you, meaning that you're not a match to each other, do you really want him? Neither one of you would be happy in such a relationship. There may be a part of you that's thinking "But what if that other, better guy never shows up? Wouldn't it be better to have this possibly 'imperfect' match now, than nothing?" This fear of being alone forever is perfectly understand- able. We're virtually bombarded by the media, our family and friends with the "fact" that if we don't find true love and get married by a certain age, we are destined to die alone. We are taught that we need Page 56 - February, 2016