A Wil t ing Sex Lif e Doesn?t Have t o be Your Real it y! By El l en Wood Somehow our society has accepted the idea that when we could be contradicting what you really want. Let me put it get into middle age and beyond, sex becomes less exciting, this way: your moment to moment thoughts are all less pleasurable, less possible. And if that?s what people affirmations, and affirmations can be negative too. If they keep affirming, that?s what they get. It?s the Law of are self-defeating thoughts, you?re accumulating quite a bit Attraction at work. of negative momentum. A wilting sex life doesn?t have to be your reality and there So catch yourself whenever you?re saying something are scientific studies that prove this. We can still enjoy negative about yourself or worrying about what might passionate sex into our 80s and beyond. Lovemaking happen as you get older. You can use those moments when actually stirs up the life force within and can help us to you catch yourself to turn the thought into a positive grow younger. affirmation. Let?s say you catch yourself thinking: I?ll never Catching ourselves whenever old programming surfaces is an important part of growing younger. Here?s one ?affirmation? that?s not expressed openly, but can be subtly damaging our libido, Sex is a problem; I must be getting old. An unintentional affirmation works just as well as intentional ones do. I keep forgetting where I put my glasses is one of those. You might couch it in stronger terms than I just did but remember, you are affirming something you don?t want to do. The intensity of your feeling, in this case frustration, and how often you say it, will determine the magnitude of your manifestation. Your memory will most likely become worse if you keep repeating that it?s always forgetting things. Intentional affirmations will not work to their full potential unless you become aware of your mind chatter which Page 14 - August , 2015 be able to finish a Sudoku puzzle. Red flag goes up. Now is your opportunity to create a positive affirmation: I?m getting better at Sudoku all the time! This negates the defeating thought and eventually you?ll have evidence that you can finish a Sudoku. Here?s an example of a mindless affirmation I heard in the ladies room at the hotel in Albuquerque right before I gave a keynote address for the New Mexico Department of Aging. A woman was standing at the mirror next to me fixing her hair and as she was leaving, she tossed over her shoulder: I don?t know why I?m fussing. No man?s going to look at me at my age. If that?s what she?s saying out loud, you can bet her internal dialogue is not any nicer than that. But she was wrong! She was a beautiful woman. Even if she was only kidding, often saying is believing and the negative ?affirmation?gets stuck in our subconscious mind ? and that?s exactly what we want to do with positive affirmations.