The Perfect Gentleman Issue 2 - April 2016 | Page 42

Thoughtful Gentleman
You might not be able to actually get your
role model to be there for you but nowadays
there is fantastic access to information via the
web, books, documentaries and more. So get
to know your role models and then visualise
asking them advice, I am sure they will give
you some new found confidence to succeed.
Fake it till you make it
If you want the quickest fix of all or you are
really struggling, then fake your confidence to
begin with. Yes, I mean really fake it, put your
confidence on like a coat! You can fake it, it is
easy. Just pretend.

We can all pretend, as kids we pretend to be
all sorts of characters and heroes, such as
cowboys, cops and astronauts. If we have the
imagination to do that then we have the
imagination to be confident now. Just take a
moment to imagine a truly confident you,
what would it look and feel like inside? Look
at yourself in the mirror and see yourself as a
truly confident person. Pretend that the
person you see is you and step outside the
door. It will feel funny the first time and you
might feel like a fraud for the first few times,
but what will happen is the fake confidence
will start to morph to the real kind.
Then, with that as the basis, you can use all
the other elements discussed above to build
true genuine confidence.

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