The Perfect Gentleman Issue 2 - April 2016 | Page 37

Thoughtful Gentleman
You will feel more centered, more confident
and assured and if you are in public people
will notice you.
You can reverse this experiment - still
standing hunch your shoulders, drop your
chest and fold into yourself a little. Lower
your chin and drop your eyes to the floor.
Those people staring will slowly look away
and you will notice how you feel will have
changed.
Be very conscious of your body posture,
when you are about walk tall, stand straight
look up and ahead. People will notice and
think you are in charge of yourself and
therefore confident.
Smile and Speak Up
A smile is as infectious as a sneeze and several
research papers have proved as much. A
genuine smile makes other people feel good
and have a favourable impression of you.
People react very positively to a smile. A
smile needs no language, it is universal.
Secondly, due to the strangeness of our
bodies, if you make a smile, even a forced
one, then it becomes exceptionally hard for
you to have a negative thought and nigh on
impossible if the smile is genuine. So the trick
I have learnt is to always keep a happy
thought floating around in my head. This can
be a happy memory, a joke or just a memory
of how you felt last time you went on a good
holiday.

or wrong. Those who speak generally are
neither of those two things, they just have
opinions and are confident enough to express
them. Trust me, these thoughts and opinions
do not have to be groundbreaking, they just
have to be spoken.

Thirdly, don’t be afraid to speak up. Whether
you are in a conversation, a meeting, a date or
a group and you have something to say, say it.
People will immediately look to those who
speak as confident ones, as most people stay
silent for fear of being perceived as foolish

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