The Perfect Gentleman Issue 1 - March 2016 | Page 42

The Perfect Lady

Why the Art of Wooing is Important
Do you know the difference between wooing
and seduction?
You may argue that they are one and the same
but they most certainly are not. While both are
concerned with attracting, the key difference lies
in the results you achieve. Namely, getting the
girl or indeed girls. Like any great craft, the art
of Wooing needs to be learnt and nurtured so
that you will eventually be the master.
So what is the difference between Wooing and
Seduction?
According to an on-line dictionary, Seduction
seems to be an act which just has one thing in
mind, sex. The one night stand which will
achieve a quick erotic high and then… what?
Dissatisfaction and frustration at not having the
‘toy’ available to play with anymore.
So you go in search of another lady, you seduce
her and the whole frustrating and dissatisfying
cycle starts again. Moreover, the lady or ladies
you have seduced will probably be hurt or even
worse for you, she will look back and think ‘who
was that chap? I can’t even remember him!’
Now tell me gentlemen, do you want to be
remembered by a lady or do you want to be
forgotten? I have no doubt that you want to be
remembered. But remembered in a way which
will make her feel good and, furthermore, that
will improve your reputation as she tells her
friends about you.
You will soon be known as the Perfect
Gentleman and not just be surrounded by all the
ladies but adored by them.
This is where wooing enters the scene. As the
dictionary says; wooing is more about affection
and the thrill of the chase and about you
yourself feeling good about it.
It is about that ancient and yet very modern art,
the art of courtly love.

The art studied and practiced by the
troubadours, knights and warriors of the past
where they would sally forth to fight an enemy
in order to win a maiden’s hand.
These men were gentle and men; gentlemen,
who were artists but also warriors. They were
specialists in their craft – wooing and
enchanting ladies. Making them feel good whilst
feeling very good about themselves. They were
Perfect Gentlemen.
So why does a woman like to be wooed?
Here, I draw on my own ideas about why I think
a woman likes to be wooed, I believe that it is
more masculine and civilized when a man woos
a lady. The idea of the warrior battling obstacles
to get to paradise (the lady) springs to mind. I
also believe that wooing makes a lady feel
appreciated because of all the effort and care
that has been put into the act by the gentleman.
It indicates that an attentive and loving man is
interested in me, as the lady, and who is looking
forward to my company rather than just my
body. Through this effort of caring and
attentive acts, I, as the lady feel pampered and
loved. And let’s face it ladies – we love to be
pampered in every respect.
So, is wooing a skill or an art a Gentleman
should learn? Absolutely! It is both a skill and an
art because any art starts off as a skill which can
be taught by a teacher. The art emerges when
the pupil becomes the master and adds his own
style and personality to the skill.
So Gentlemen, if you are a master of the art of
wooing, then you really are a ‘Perfect
Gentleman’.

by Lorella McDonald

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