The Messiah Herald Issue 05 June 2017 - Page 13

THE CONSEQUENCES OF OUR ACTIONS inferiority complex if his poverty-stricken parents continue to nurture his sense of deprivation. For parents who cannot afford the toys their children desire, here’s a tip: say no to them once. The next time they ask for anything, even if you have to borrow money, you need to get it for them. This is essential if you are concerned about your child’s emotional sanity. It is not just children who feel the senses of deprivation and achievement. Adults are prone to it too. When a batsman in cricket is unable to hit the ball for many overs, his morale begins to fall. But if suddenly, he manages to make two runs, he feels an overwhelming sense of achievement, which restores his confidence and willpower. If a businessman who has been sustaining a loss of £1000 per month makes a sale of £500, the feelings of failure dominating his mind will be nullified with the onset of emotions of achievement. When you are experiencing a sense of achievement and the person in front of you is touching upon feelings of deprivation, there is a conflict of emotions between you two which then kindles jealousy. By nature, we tend to care primarily about our own selves. As we become more emotionally intelligent, we need to care for the emotions of those around us. This is how emotional bonds between people are nurtured and maintained. MESSIAH HERALD / ISSUE 05 / JUN 2017 Everything we do will have an impact on everybody’s emotional sanity. If you see someone helping the needy, you will feel positive emotions for them. If you see someone being abusive to others, you will automatically feel negative emotions for them. HH Younus AlGohar declares, ‘You are the one who will make positive emotions in the hearts of other people. If you are not behaving well, people will not have good emotions for you.’ Many religious people fake their actions to earn positive emotions from others. For example, if a person appears to be worshipping God wholeheartedly, people around him will praise him even if his worship is not reaching God or improving his character. When the schools and colleges are full of students, we don’t expect ignorance to be common in society. Similarly, if all the worshippers in mosques, churches, synagogues and temples were sincere in their worship and practice of the religion, our world would have been a much better place than it is today. When they’re in the worship place, they appear to be wonderful people; when they come out of the worship place, they change. Every one of your actions and statements are directly linked to an emotion - good or bad. Whatever you do in front of others will always elicit a reaction, because people can not deny what they see and hear. Physical wounds will eventually heal, but emotional wounds caused by harsh words can last forever. As long as you are living, everything is in real- time. People will change their minds about you in an instant. You can do great things all your life, but one wrong statement or act on your part can turn people against you. HH Younus AlGohar reminds us, ‘Be careful. Nobody is your enemy; you are either your friend or enemy. A good spiritual man is one who only begets positive emotions; who does not beget negative emotions and who does not cause any other person to beget negative emotions.’ 13