I never thought I would get married . Just going through being engaged seems like an experiment because I ’ d never , as a girl or in all my life , had a vision of getting married . It ’ s not something I needed or wanted .

The singer confessed though that the traumatic split that cemented the end of their whirlwind romance in 2017 left her having to rebuild herself mentally and physically . The unlucky-in-love-star has since turned the corner admitting that , ‘ Sometimes it takes something like stepping out of your comfort zone , some drama like that , to shake things up ’

Many will take this separation as one more “ proof ” that long-lasting relationships no longer exist so , what ’ s the point in tying the knot anymore ? From TV headlines to dayto-day life , it is more common nowadays to hear of divorce and failed relationships than in the past . But is marriage as an institution really the problem here or does the fault lie with the people ?

Co-author of best-selling book , Bulletproof

Marriage and newly-released 120 Minutes to Shield Your Marriage , Renato Cardoso said in an article , “ If long-lasting , happy marriages are becoming hard to find , it ’ s because people are losing the notion of a basic little rule . In marriage , it ’ s like this : you neglect it , you ’ ll lose it .

“ It is so easy to neglect it and put the relationship on autopilot after the exchange of rings … I know how it is . I did it for 12 years in my marriage . A little problem that arises here , another one there … the couple argues but nothing is resolved . Life goes on ,” he wrote . “ All of a sudden , a crisis arises . ( Remember : unresolved problems + time = crisis .) Separation seems to be the only solution .

“ It is possible to practically salvage any marriage IF at least ONE starts to do the

right things . Yes , hardly ever does it start with both . Usually , when one changes , the other one is influenced to change too . The problem is their pride , ego and stubbornness are at times so big that no one wants to give in .”

So , is marriage for everyone ? Marriage , love , relationships is as it ever was and demands as much work and effort as it ever did . The question is , in our quick-fix fast-food lifestyle where the media tends to dictates the status quo , are people still willing to put in the work required to make love last a lifetime ? Perhaps , if people chose to use their mind a little bit more than following a fleeting feeling of the heart ; they ’ d see that the effort , pain and the consequences of a divorce surpasses by far , the necessary effort to change and work the marriage out .