with lupus and kidney failure and at
that time my biggest concern was
why I had no interest in sex.
It wasn’t until I started researching
and reading for myself that I began
to understand all the things my body
was going through. Sometimes as
patients we rely on the doctor to tell
us everything, but we have to be more
proactive. I had to do something, my
husband had begun to suspect that I
was cheating on him. Totally not the case.
Another lesson learned is to talk to your
mate and let them know what is going on.
What it all boils down to is that you will experience some changes.
Some may not be drastic and others will really be life changing. The
question is “How will you handle it?” I’ve learned to take control of
the situation and not sit by and let things
just happen. How did I overcome the
challenges of changes in my sex life? First
I talked about it, put it all on the table of
what was going on and what we could do
about it. What has helped us is doing the
things that made us fall in love with each
other when we first met. Dates, phone
calls, texts or love notes to each other.
When there is extra money to splurge
we get away just the two of us and spend
time with each other.
Even though it takes a little more
planning and fore play than others, spontaneity is key too.
Surprises can help reignite or just light that dim light. Know that
it’s not over or the end of the world. You can still live and enjoy
life, it just may take a little more effort to get there.
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