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6 6 { I cried as I boiled the last of the pasta.... HOPING IT WOULD BE ENOUGH to feed my kids... As the months grew more and more tight and the bills were stacking up, I fell into a deep depression. With three small children and my husband pulling triple duty, I felt like the world’s worst wife and mother. Why couldn’t I just get over this silly fear of mine and get back to my old self? Something inside me had changed. My mission to help families had been tainted by their unwillingness to help themselves. I wanted desperately to spread my wings and show the world what I was truly capable of, and felt deep within me that I was not living up to my true potential. I cried as I boiled the last of the pasta in my bare pantry, hoping it would be enough to feed my kids as I contemplated how I would get us out of the mess we were in. Collections agencies were calling. Rent was due. Car repossessed. Everything was falling apart. Out of desperation, we moved from our downtown city home to a townhouse in a neighbouring suburb. I was desperate for someone to give me guidance. I read every free online e–book and resource I could find. Enough was enough. I knew I needed to change, I just didn’t know how (yet). In September of 2016, I attended a live event for female entrepreneurs hosted by Chantelle Adams. I had to borrow money and pay bi–monthly instalments to go. I carpooled and shared an Airbnb to cut costs, and it was the best decision EVER. I made some incredible new connections and learned a lot from the various speakers who had travelled from all over the world to present. My eyes were opened to a whole new way to do business, and it sparked something inside me. I realized I wasn’t a failure. I realized the market I was serving just wasn’t ready for what I was offering. WHAT LED YOU TO #THEEXPANSIONPROJECT? FOUND THE After attending that live event in September 2016, I connected with some of the most incredible women I had ever met; P R E M I E R I S S U E 2 0 1 7 } K H A R I S M A M A G A Z I N E women on missions of purpose so much bigger than their businesses and themselves. It was incredibly inspiring and beyond anything I had experienced in my ten years in business “offline”. Although I had been passionate about helping families help themselves with free financial literacy workshops and free financial planning services, this was even BIGGER than that. I had so many ideas running through my head about how I could scale my company and integrate a giving back component, that I spiralled for a little while. I hired a business coach in January 2017 who helped me work through some of the ideas and how to ensure I was following my bliss to make it a successful endeavour. And honestly, that was something I had NEVER done before. In the past, I did what I enjoyed and was skilled at, but didn’t follow my BLISS: the one thing that I love to do so much in this world that I would pay a LOT of money to do it. For me, bliss is connecting with other souls and helping them discover their true calling, alongside travel. Now that I had the pieces to the puzzle, so I began brainstorming ways I could travel, while connecting with men and women seeKing more meaning and purpose in their lives, AND give back to the causes we care so deeply about. After 2 weeks of journalling, meditation, talking with coaches and a LOT of prayer, #theExpansionProject was born. WHY ARE YOU PASSIONATE ABOUT GIVING BACK? One of the biggest reasons I am so passionate about giving back is because I was once a recipient of charity. I grew up with a single mother, putting herself through college, on welfare, and were often nominated for food baskets and Santa’s Anonymous. Most of the clothing I wore came from donations, and we frequently shopped at second–hand stores. Despite my meagre childhood, I never went without. I never missed a meal, and I always had a warm roof over my head. When I look back at those times, there was so much we DID have compared to other parts of the world. 6 7