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Encouraging the Singles
Confessions: Single and Saved— by Karynthia Story
Girl, when are you getting married? You still
single? Hey, baby, if you ain't married, you
bout to be!! When will I have some grandbabies? These are statements that I endure
on a regular basis.
been. I suffer when sex, yes I said it, is all I
can think about but must attempt to remain
celibate. I have to suffer to get to the glory.
My confession is that I've been single for
years…on top of years, on top of years.
Never had someone to introduce to the parents. Never held hands with a man while
walking in a park. You know, a real "boo".
Well, I'm sure you may be wondering what is
wrong with me. ?Well let’s see… I'm saved,
love The Lord, can throw DOWN in the
kitchen, can clean, love kids, I think I'm kind
of cute , I've always had a steady job, I'm in
music ministry and (drum roll please) I don't
have kids!!!
So I'm sure you're now sitting on the edge of
your seat wondering, “Why IS this woman
still single?” ?The simple answer – I feel that
the men that approach me aren't worth my
time. Do I sound stuck up? I'm not. I just
value my time. Since my dating history is
nonexistent, any man I allow myself to date
has to be something special – out of the
ordinary even, not someone who staggers
out of an alley and inquires about my marital status (true story). ?
I feel as If I have a lot to give and I'm not
giving it to just anybody. It has been hard to
accept that God’s plan for me will include
suffering. "Who wants to suffer," you ask.
Paul said in Romans 8:18, "For I reckon that
the sufferings of this present time are not
worthy to be compared with the glory which
shall be revealed in us." Suffering will happen, but we have to make it through the
suffering to get to the glory. Everyone just
wants to skip to the glory! There's a purpose
for tribulation: Romans 5:3 says, "And not
only so, but we glory in tribulations also:
knowing that tribulation worketh patience;"
Suffering God’s way definitely helped to
increase my patience. Some ask me, "Do
you put yourself out there?" I am open and
available but I chase no man. "Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD. " (Proverbs
18:22) I NEED for him to find me because I
want him to have God’s favor.
Next confession: I suffer a lot. ?I suffer when
I’m lonely, when I crave affection, when I cry,
when I see Facebook pictures of happy couples or wedding pictures. It hurts to see
people with kids who neglect them, knowing
that I would treasure that child. It hurts to
desire a mate on a daily basis, to know that I
have so much to offer and so much love and
support to give. I just have to hold on to it. I
suffer when I think about what could have
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Confession: I know that the enemy wants to
distract me while I’m single. "But I would
have you without carefulness. He that is unmarried careth for the things that belong to
the Lord, how he may please the Lord: And
this I speak for your own profit; not that I may
cast a snare upon you, but for that which is
comely, and that ye may attend upon the
Lord without distraction." (1 Corinthians
7:32, 35 ). When you're single you should
have plenty of time for the things of God.
Your prayer life should be A-1, you serve at
the church, study your bible, visit the sick
and the shut-in, go to choir rehearsals... the
list goes on and on. ?
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