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Make Your Relationship I Healthy: Part 2 By Georgia Smith-Lyle, MA, LPC-S n the March 2018 issue of Living Well Magazine, com- municating effectively was the topic in Part 1 of Make Your Relationship Healthy. Communicating effectively sets the stage for trust and validates each other, enrich- ing deeper connection. It is the foundational tool for a healthy relationship. The focus of Part 2 is the basic needs and wants of a woman and how she thinks. I love watching the face of a man change during a couples counseling session when understanding of how β€œshe thinks, and what she needs and wants” becomes as clear as the sky is blue! At the core of a woman’s heart she wants to know she is beautiful and adored, understood and valuable, safe and secure. Before I specifically discuss each of these basic needs, knowing how a woman thinks and processes is insightful. How she thinks and processes: Women can carry on a full conversation starting with one point, finish that specific point, change to another subject and in the trail of conversation bring the initial topic up again. Men usually think the topic has already been dis ΥΝΝ•…ΉΙ•Ν½±Ω•Έ)%˜„έ½΅…Έ‘½•ΜΉ½Π‘…Ω”½΅Α±•Ρ”±½ΝΥΙ”°Ν‘”…Έ‘½±)Ρ‘”Ρ½Α₯Œ₯Έ‘•Θ΅₯Ή…Ή•…Ν₯±δ‰Ι₯Ήœ₯ЁΥΐ……₯ΈΈQ‘”)΅₯Ή½˜„έ½΅…Έ…±ΝΌ‘…ΜƒŠqΑ½ΐΥΑΜ»ŠtA½ΐ΅ΥΆ…Ι”Ρ‘½Ν”)Ρ‘½Υ‘Ρ́ё…Ё͕•΄ΡΌ…ΑΑ•…ȁ½ΘΑ½ΐ΅Υΐ₯ΈΡ‘”΅₯‘‘±”½˜)„½ΉΩ•ΙΝ…Ρ₯½ΈΈQ‘…ΣŠéݑδΝ‘”…Έ‘…Ή”Ρ‘”ΝΥ‰©•Π₯Έ)΅₯΅ΝΡΙ•…΄έ‘₯±”Ρ…±­₯Ήœ…‰½ΥЁ…Ή½Ρ‘•ΘΝΥ‰©•ΠΈQ‘₯́₯́ё”)݅䁄έ½΅…»Šé΅₯Ήέ…́Ι•…Ρ•ΈM‘”…Έ΅Υ±Ρ₯Ρ…Ν¬•Ω•Έ)₯Έ‘•ΘΡ‘₯Ή­₯ΉœΕΥ₯Ρ”•…Ν₯±δΈM‘”Ν••΅ΜΡΌΡ‘₯Ή¬΅½Ι”±₯­”„)ΝΑ…‘•ΡΡ€ΝΡΙ…Ή…́½ΑΑ½Ν•ΡΌΩ•Ι䁱₯Ή•…ȁ±₯­”„έ…™™±”έ₯Ρ )‰½ΥΉ‘…Ι₯•Μ€‘΅•ΈΡ‘₯Ή¬±₯­”„έ…™™±”έ‘₯ 'Še±°Ρ…±¬…‰½ΥЁ₯Έ)„™ΥΡΥΙ”…ΙΡ₯±”€Έ9ΥΙΡΥΙ₯Ήœ₯́‘•Θ‰…Ν₯ŒΉ…ΡΥΙ”…Ή₯Έ½Ι‘•Θ)ΡΌΉΥΙΡΥΙ”½Ρ‘•Ίݕ±°°‘•ΘΡ‘½Υ‘Ρ́…Ι”½™Ρ•Έ₯Έ΅…Ήδ‘₯Ι•Œ΄)Ρ₯½ΉΜέ‘•Έ…Ι₯Ήœ™½Θ½Ρ‘•ΙΜΈQ‘₯́•αΑ±…₯ΉΜέ‘δΝ‘”₯́…‰±”)ΡΌ‘…Ω”„΅Υ±Ρ₯Ρ…Ν¬έ…䁽˜ΑΙ½•ΝΝ₯Ήœ‘•ΘΡ‘½Υ‘ΡΜΈ)%́͑”‰•…ΥΡ₯™Υ°…Ή…‘½Ι•όθ5½ΝЁݽ΅•Έ°ΉΌ΅…ΡΡ•Θ)‘½ά½Ή™₯‘•ΉΠ½Θ‘½ά‰•…ΥΡ₯™Υ°°…±έ…έ݅ΉΠΡ‘”Ι•…ΝΝΥΘ΄)…Ή”Ρ‘•δ…Ι”ΝΡ₯±°‰•…ΥΡ₯™Υ°…Ή…‘½Ι•‰δΡ‘•₯ȁ…‘΅₯Ι•ΘΈ)Q‘₯́₯́Ή½Π‰•…ΥΝ”½˜₯ΉΝ•ΥΙ₯Ρ䀴₯Ё₯́Ν₯΅Α±δ„Ή••Έ%Ё₯Μ)Ρ‘”έ…δΝ‘”₯́Ι•…Ρ•Έέ₯Ν”΅…Έέ₯±°½ΉΡ₯ΉΥ”ΡΌΙ•…Μ΄)ΝΥΙ”‘₯́±½Ω•½Ή”½ΉΝ₯ΝΡ•ΉΡ±δ½˜Ρ‘”έ…䁑”Ν••Μ‘•ΛŠ˜)‰•…ΥΡ₯™Υ°„=Ή”έ…δΡΌΙ•…ΝΝΥΙ”‘•Θ½˜ε½Υȁ…‘½Ι…Ρ₯½Έ₯́Ѽ+Šq…±έ…έΑΥΙΝΥ”‘•Θ»Št5…Ήδ΅•ΈΝΡ½ΐΑΥΙΝΥ₯Ήœ½Ή”Ρ‘•δ)΅…ΙΙδΡ‘”ΡΙ•…ΝΥΙ”Ρ‘•δ‘…Ω”™½ΥΉΈ]½΅•Έ‘½»ŠeЁ͕•΄ΡΌ)ΥΉ‘•ΙΝΡ…Ήέ‘•ΈΑΥΙΝΥ₯ΉœΝΡ½Ά…Ή₯Ё͕Ή‘́ё”΅•ΝΝ…”)Ρ‘•δ…Ι”Ή½Π…‘½Ι•…́‰•™½Ι”Έ5•Έ°½ΉΡ₯ΉΥ”Ρ‘”ΑΥΙΝΥ₯Ήœ)…ΉΡ‘”…™™₯Ι΅…Ρ₯½Έ½˜ε½Υȁ…‘½Ι…Ρ₯½Έ™½Θ‘•ΘΈ%Ёέ₯±°΅…­”)‘•Θ™••°‰•…ΥΡ₯™Υ°…Ή…‘½Ι•Έ)%́͑”ΥΉ‘•ΙΝΡ½½…ΉΩ…±Υ…‰±”όθ]‘•Έ„έ½΅…Έ)₯́‘₯͍ΥΝΝ₯ΉœΝ½΅•Ρ‘₯Ήœ°Ν‘”έ…ΉΡ́Ѽ­Ή½άε½ΤΥΉ‘•ΙΝΡ…Ή)‘•ΘΡ‘½Υ‘Ρ́…Ή™••±₯ΉΜΈQ‘•Ι”΅…䁉”„ΑΙ½‰±•΄ΡΌΝ½±Ω”)έ‘₯ Ν‘”₯́ΡΙε₯ΉœΡΌ™₯ΉΡ‘”Ν½±ΥΡ₯½ΈΡΌΈUΉ±•Ν́͑”…Ν­Μ)™½Θ„Ν½±ΥΡ₯½Έ°Ρ‘•Έ…±°Ν‘”Ή••‘́₯́չ‘•ΙΝΡ…Ή‘₯ΉœΈ5•Έ…Ι”)ΑΙ½‰±•΄Ν½±Ω•Ί…ΉΡ‘•δέ…ΉΠΡΌΝ½±Ω”…ΉδΑΙ½‰±•΄Έ ΥΠ)Ν½΅•Ρ₯΅•ΜΡ‘•δ©ΥΝЁΉ••ΡΌ‰”„½½±₯ΝΡ•Ή•Θ…ΉΥΉ‘•Θ΄)ΝΡ…ΉΈέ½΅…Έ…±ΝΌΉ••‘́Ѽ­Ή½ά‘•ΘΡ‘½Υ‘Ρ́…Ή₯‘•…Μ)…Ι”₯΅Α½ΙΡ…ΉΠ°…́ݕ±°…́‘•Θ±₯™”ΑΥΙΑ½Ν”έ‘…ѕٕȁ₯Ё΅…δ)‰”ΈUΑ±₯™Ρ₯Ήœ…ΉΩ…±₯‘…Ρ₯Ήœ‘•Θέ½ΙΡ …́„Α•ΙΝ½Έ°…Ή)έ‘…Ё͑”…½΅Α±₯Ν‘•Μ΅…­•Μ‘•Θ™••°Ω…±Υ…‰±”Έ)%́͑”Ν…™”…ΉΝ•ΥΙ”ό聡½Ρ₯½Ή…°Ν•ΥΙ₯Ρδ₯́‘₯‘±δ)₯΅Α½ΙΡ…ΉΠΡΌ„έ½΅…ΈΈM½΅”έ½΅•Έ½ΥΉΠ•΅½Ρ₯½Ή…°Ν”΄)ΥΙ₯Ρ䁅́΅½Ι”₯΅Α½ΙΡ…ΉΠΡ‘…Έ™₯Ή…Ή₯…°Ν•ΥΙ₯Ρ丁MΑ•Ή‘₯Ήœ)ΕΥ…±₯ΡδΡ₯΅”έ₯Ρ ‘•Θ…Ή™½ΝΡ•Ι₯Ήœ•΅½Ρ₯½Ή…°Ν•ΥΙ₯Ρ䁅Ή)½ΉΉ•Ρ₯½Έ₯́™ΥΉ‘…΅•ΉΡ…°™½Θ‘•ΘΈM‘”™••±ΜΝ…™”έ‘•ΈΝ‘”)­Ή½έ́ε½Τ‘…Ω”‘•Θ‰…¬…Ήέ₯±°‘•±ΐ‘•Θ₯Έ…ΉδΝ₯ΡΥ„΄)Ρ₯½Έ…́΅Υ …́ε½ΤΑ½ΝΝ₯‰±δ…ΈΈ••±₯ΉœΝ…™”™½Θ‘•Θ…±ΝΌ)΅•…ΉΜΝ‘”…Έ•αΑΙ•Ν́‘•Θ‘••Α•ΝЁ™•…ΙΜ°₯ΉΝ•ΥΙ₯Ρ₯•Μ…Ή)Ρ‘½Υ‘Ρ́…Ήε•Π‰”ΥΉ‘•ΙΝΡ½½…ΉΩ…±₯‘…Ρ•Έ)$‘½Α”ε½Τ‘…Ω”•Ή©½ε•±•…ΙΉ₯Ήœ„±₯ΡΡ±”…‰½ΥЁё”Ή••‘Μ)…Ήέ…ΉΡ́½˜„έ½΅…Έ…ΉΡ‘”έ…δΝ‘”Ρ‘₯Ή­ΜΈQ‘₯́₯́½˜)½ΥΙΝ”Ή½Π…±°₯Ή±ΥΝ₯Ω”…Ή‘½•ΜΉ½Π™₯Ё•Ω•Ιδέ½΅…ΈΈ!½ά΄)•Ω•Θ°₯Ё‘½•Μ…ΑΑ±δΡΌΡ‘”΅…©½Ι₯Ρ䁅Ή₯́„½½Α±…”ΡΌ)ΝΡ…ΙЁ™½Θ‘•…±Ρ‘δΙ•±…Ρ₯½ΉΝ‘₯ΑΜΈ)•½Ι₯„M΅₯Ρ ΅1ε±”°5°1A ΅L₯́₯ΈΑΙ₯Ω…Ρ”ΑΙ…Ρ₯”…́„1₯•ΉΝ•AΙ½™•ΝΝ₯½Ή…° ½ΥΉΝ•±½Θ₯Έ)Ρ‘”ΝΡ…Ρ”½˜Q•α…́ΑΙ½Ω₯‘₯Ήœ½ΥΉΝ•±₯Ήœ™½Θ‘₯±‘Ι•Έ°…‘½±•Ν•ΉΡΜ°…‘Υ±ΡΜ°΅…ΙΙ₯…”…Ή™…΅₯±δΈ)M‘”‘…́…ΥΡ‘½Ι•ΡέΌ‰½½­Μ…Ή„ΑΥ‰±₯ŒΝΑ•…­•ΘΈ•½Ι₯„΅…䁉”Ι•…‘•…Π€ΠΨδ΄ΰΤΤ΄ΐΘΤ؁½Θ)Ω₯„•΅…₯°ΑΝ΅₯Ρ έ…½°Ή½΄ΈέέάΉ½ΥΝ•±₯Ή‰ε•½Ι₯„Ή½΄Έ(Πΐ)Qa=5I1₯Ω₯Ήœ]•±°5……ι₯Ή”π5d½)U9€ΘΐΔΰ