Student Life 2013/14 January 2014 | Page 16

STUDENT GUIDE THE ULTIMATE SURVIVAL GUIDE FOR COPING WITH FLATMATES HOW TO TELL SOMEONE YOU DON’T WANT TO LIVE WITH THEM You’ve moved in with complete strangers and now you have to live with them for an entire year. Here’s how to cope (without having a breakdown!) STUDENT GUIDE Nightmare housemates are a student rite of passage. University wouldn’t be university without being able to sit in the Students’ Union and wax lyrical about how your flatmate is driving you crazy; from not washing up to staying holed up in their room, we have all been there. But that doesn’t mean it has to stay that way. Cosmo Columnist Tiffany Wright (who has had her fair share of nightmare-inducing flatmates) offers her advice on how to have the conversations you don’t want to have, with the people living under your roof. The dilemma: When you first moved in you all lived in harmony. Three weeks later, you are at each other’s throats – from stressing over whose turn it is to wash up to hammering on each other’s bedroom doors whilst screaming; “turn your music down, I’ve got a hangover!” In short, you feel a HUGE confrontation brewing. What you want to say: “When I signed this tenancy agreement, I didn’t realise I would be living under a roof with 16 www.accommodationforstudents.com characters from the Inbetweeners. I’m a student…GET ME OUT OF HERE!” What to actually do: Try to keep your conversations over any problems that do arise solution-focused rather than grumbling, bitching and telling one another off. Whilst people can’t change what they have already done, chances are they might listen to you and try to change their ways if you confront them in a non-aggressive way. The dilemma: Your flatmate hasn’t paid their shares of the bills and when you confront them they claim they are broke. The problem is, the bills need to be paid regardless. Eek – what do you do? What you want to say: “OK, so you bought us a round at the Union last night and a new top for your hot date last week, but the Bills HAVE to be paid. All of us are broke…and we still manage to do it. When will you grow up and realise you have responsibilities?” What to actually do: Gather the troops (aka your other flatmates and the one who isn’t paying) and find out the reasons why they’re unable to make the payment. Then try and help them find a solution: Perhaps their parents can lend