Steel Notes Magazine September 2016 - Page 102

Steel Notes Magazine July & August 2016 That which does not kill us makes us stronger - Nietzsche Alessia Bastianelli Throughout life, everyone has to cope with adverse situations, difficult experiences, or even tragic events. Disappointments, daily conflicts, job loss, illness, and the death of a loved one are examples of life experiences that can upset people’s psychological stability. These upheavals of one’s existing balance can confront people with a series of questions from which we cannot escape: Why me? What did I do to deserve this? When looking for a clarifying response, it is possible to redefine one’s suffering, although overcoming suffering may never be realized fully. The pain that we feel can be converted into an added value, a source of greater sensitivity to our existence and empathy toward other people. While some wounds will not heal completely, any adverse situation can represent an opportunity for greater fulfillment if it is not lived passively as punishment or as a denial of happiness in its sudden and unexpected occurrence. The real challenge is discovering how to overcome these difficult times. In this sense, difficulties are like opportunities or tests that encourage us to gather and organize our resources, both internal and external: a challenge from which no one is exempt in order to achieve a more functional life balance. To face the inevitable adversities of life, we harken to a skill known as resilience. This term was taken from the engineering sector and indicates the ability of a material to withstand a sudden impact without cracking. Its action can be compared to that of our immune system, which is called upon to protect us from external aggression. From a psychological point of view, resilience is the process of adapting in the face of adversity, tragedy, pressures, or significant sources of stress. Resilience is therefore the ability to heal ourselves after an injury, cope, and manage to reorganize our lives successfully, in spite of difficult situations that suggest a negative result. 102 Steel Notes Magazine