sexual abuse
Sexual Abuse
Child/adolescent sexual abuse is a frightening and devastating experience. The child is the “victim” and the abuser is the “perpetrator.” Child sexual abuse
may vary in extent, and in frequency, but even one experience is considered abuse. The most common dynamics of sexual abuse are that the perpetrator is
older than the victim (an older child or adult) and the abuser and contact is a “secret” for the victim to keep. Signs/symptoms of sexual abuse include:
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nightmares or night terrors
sudden separation anxiety
urinary tract infections
bed wetting
seduction, promiscuity
complaints of problems urinating or problems with bowel
movements
complaints of pain in vaginal or rectal area
physical signs, such as cuts, welts, bleeding, or bruises
statements of a sexual nature, regarding being touched, hurt, etc.
covering up body, as if ashamed (dressing, bathing)
secretive in regards to where they were, activities, friendships
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sudden, rather abrupt changes in behavior - a bright, outgoing child
becomes quiet, withdrawn, or moody
excessive, inappropriate interest in sex, or an extreme fear of sex
(inappropriate to that child’s age or development)
sudden appearance of unexplained material goods, i.e., money, toys,
jewelry
fear of bathing or showering
sudden weight gain or development of eating disorders
depression
unusual masturbatory habits
victimization/sexual abuse of other children
Victims of sexual abuse require help from professionals that have experience in the treatment of childhood sexual abuse. Contact professionals for guidance
and assistance. Perpetrators can also be helped, and professionals are skilled in working with them. It is a known fact that if the perpetrator does not receive
help, he/she will abuse again. Facing the reality of the abuse and pursuing help can assist everyone in the end.
Sexual Orientation
Many parents and young people still suffer from a conspiracy of silence about sexuality. Teens are often afraid to talk with parents about sexual concerns
because it is not a comfortable subject to discuss, and they do not want their actions to be disapproved of or curtail their freedom. Parents often struggle to
initiate conversations about sex because they themselves fear embarrassment, and they also realize that teens are trying to separate themselves from their
parents.
However, adolescents deserve to discuss sexuality with their parents. They need assistance in critiquing cultural postures toward it. Teens need to be drawn
into conversations about sex with someone who can give them responsible advice, a mature perspective, and most importantly, valid information. They need
constructive discussions with parents to combat the “sex education” they receive from peers and the media.
Suggestions For Parents
• Discuss the confusing messages found today in the media and music concerning sex, and how these messages influence our behavior and standards.
• Discuss with your teen examples of sexuality without sex, such as hugging, kissing, hand holding, a fond gaze, etc.
• Discuss the different reasons for wanting to have sex.
• Discuss your own values and beliefs with your child, as well as the responsibilities and consequences that may accompany sexual activity.
• Discuss the differences between the sexual pressures men and women face.
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