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HOW TO HELP A FRIEND
If you or someone you know is being hurt at home or at school, you are not alone. Sometimes it is hard to know what to say or
where to go for help if you have been a victim of dating violence.
Everyone can do something to make a difference about teen dating violence. While getting involved can be intimidating, it is
important to speak up. Silence excuses abuse. Have a voice!
BELOW ARE SOME RECOMMENDATIONS TO KEEP YOU SAFE
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Educate yourself! Learn about teen dating violence and healthy relationships to stay safe! Get involved in school teen outreach
programs and help to raise awareness. Ask your school about the Lake County Teen Dating Violence Kit to obtain resources on
local programs.
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Seek help! Talk to people you trust and keep talking until someone listens. Think about talking to a teacher, parent, coach,
relative or friend. Reach out to others for guidance and support. Go to your school counseling department, dean’s or nurse’s
office for more information.
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Be willing to accept help! Sometimes people who know you or love you may express concern. Don’t be embarrassed or afraid
to tell the truth.
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Create a safety plan! Decide on a safe location to go and people you can call if you need help. Always let someone know where
you are. Create a special code word with your friends so you can signal to each other when you need help. Always have your cell
phone with you if you need to call or text a friend for help. Keep change and important numbers with you in the event your cell
phone is destroyed or taken. Consider changing your school locker and change your route to/from school.
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Call 911! Never underestimate your gut feeling...stay safe! Get help immediately!
WHAT ABOUT CONFLICT?
It’s normal to have conflict in a relationship. Working it out together can bring you closer.
When you disagree, does your partner:
• Respect your idea and views?
• Listen to what you’re saying?
• Help find solutions that work for you both?
Be careful if your partner:
• Has to have things go his or her way.
• Isn’t willing to meet you halfway.
• Insults you or puts you down.
Think hard about whether you want this person in your life.
ETR Associates/www.etr.org
See Teen Dating Violence Resource Page for Resources
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