will eliminate any forward progress on those things you crave a yes for instead.
So, what’s up? Why are you focusing on what you don’t want?
Drop the focus on what other people think.
Let go of the fear of being different than “everyone” (who is everyone anyway?)
Focus on what you are wanting and taking action to do that.
In talking with the aspiring bakery boutique owner, I heard an unwillingness to let go of current material surroundings, an inability to let go of status and community she was rooted in.
I also heard obligation – as in I have been in this job so long I owe it to them to finish, and excuses with respect to the expectations of those around her.
Her fears were all centered in fear of change and what it could mean and what she could lose.
Step 2 to overcoming your resistance to yes: Where are your reasons rooted?
Who told you your reason was valid? Is it really, truly true, or can you imagine a way past it, over it, around it?
It Takes Courage to focus on what you might receive instead.
I remember this feeling when I encountered a major life change in 2003.
I needed the change, I needed to
immerse in it.
But I was scared of what it could bring.
My life was shit and I wasn’t happy. But I was familiar with that shit.
If I changed anything, it could be worse shit. Shit I wasn’t familiar with and comfortable in.
Ahhhh, but what if it’s better?
Saying yes in the face of adversaries isn’t always easy. Some of us thrive on it – screaming yes when others say no and defying everything.
Some of us find it a little more daunting. For those in the second category it can be scary. But as we all know, courage is being afraid and doing it anyway.
And not just doing it, but kicking the shit out of it and being awesome.
Step 3 to overcoming your resistance to yes: To cultivate that courage, get clear on your why.
When you think about what you really want to say yes to, why do you want to say yes?
Now say Yes!
Tell all that bullshit wanting to crop up in the form of other people’s opinions, real and imagines to sit the fuck down.
This is yours to say yes to, yours to live and create, your life to live and nobody gets to decide what’s good for it but you!
You can get more natural at this! Nine years after that initial resistance, I found myself leaping into change with
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