spicy diva magazine vol.2 Aug 2014 | Page 33

Masturbation offers three benefits:

1. You learn about what you need to reach orgasm.

2. You get your body into the groove of having orgasms regularly.

3. You get to discover your orgasm threshold – the wonderful moment when you're on the brink of orgasm but haven’t gone over the edge.

"Usually we don’t notice this moment because we are so excited about what’s going to happen next."

But pay attention – it’s the key to experiencing multiple orgasms.

To recognize your orgasm threshold during masturbation, pay attention to your arousal level from start to finish.

Rate it on a scale of 1-10, with 1 being totally unaroused and 10 as your orgasm.

Don’t worry if you go over the edge a couple of times; it will give you a good sense of your level 10.

Next time, as you get up to a level 7 or 8, try to bring your arousal back down to a 4 or 5 by breathing deeply or by changing the stimulation.

Don’t let your arousal wane too much; stay in an aroused state for several minutes, going back and forth between feeling highly aroused and less aroused.

When you’ve done this a couple of times, you will have discovered those waves of pre-orgasmic bliss that most women experience but don’t necessarily notice during partner sex.

You’ll also have tuned in to the subtle differences in your arousal level, which you’ll need later.