Spectacular Magazine - Nov 2014 | Page 36

LIFESTYLES THIS IS YOUR LIFE By Del Mattioli Helping the Helper/CAREGIVERS Caregiving and Care-Receiver—November is National Caregiving Month. We are in the Giving Season—make time to give some TIME to a Caregiver! That’s right—NOT for the care receiver but the one whom is taking care of them. We often read articles and listen to TV about how to take care of someone else whose ADL’S (Activities of Daily Living) has been compromised. The caregiver is stressed, feeling guilty, tired, depressed, hiding pain, neglecting their own needs and overwhelmed with so much to do. Housecleaning, grocery shopping, picking up medications, dry cleaning & laundering, keeping appointments, general banking needs, feeling lonely, loneliness and must not leave the care receiver alone. A Godly gift for the caregiver is the sharing of our “TIME”. However, being specific about what comes to mind to help the caregiver is important. When someone you care about is going through a difficult time, you might say, “Let me know how I can help.” It’s a nice gesture, but such offers can be difficult to accept — primarily because they aren’t specific. Instead, make concrete offers of help. Helpful suggestions: • “I’m going to the grocery store. What can I pick up for you?” • “I’ve got a couple of hours free tomorrow afternoon. May I sit in for you while you run a few errands or take some time for yourself?” Take a book, a computer, a Bible or write while sitting. • “I doubled my meatloaf recipe so that I could share it with you. I brought enough to last you for several meals.” • “Do you need some laundry done? I can pick it up today and bring it back clean tomorrow.” • “Does your yard need to be mowed? I’d be happy to take care of it this weekend.” • Consider giving gift cards for nai