LIFESTYLES
THIS IS YOUR LIFE
By Del Mattioli
FORGIVENESS
You cannot forgive someone until you have fully felt the
pain he or she has caused you.
To forgive means simply that you refuse to keep hating
someone.
This is a psychological fact about human nature - that
everyone is drawn away from essential human goodness by a need to avoid
feeling weak or foolish - then you have a new way to cope with your feelings
of hurt and to overcome your “natural,” hostile slide into anger.
We have suffered pain, anger, resentment, retaliatory actions, outburst, loss
of property, grief and the list could go on and on - but there comes a time that
healing, forgiveness and trusting in the Almighty to show us the way to “come
to grips” with core issues relating to US all.
Fatherless boys and young men impacts our youth in many ways and it is
detrimental to address this issue with “real love”.
I took it upon myself to interview a father who grew up without his father.
Because I grew up with a father in the household my entire youth life - I was
not surprised but felt his pain!
His exact words were: “What a young man misses is the model (in action).
Living with your father and having a relationship of spending “time” with
their son/s would help our boys. He shows you all the things you take for
granted such as how he handles anger in adversity. He tells you how he
picked himself up when he failed and moved on with confidence. There is
no single person who can build you up like a man - women are not capable of
doing that! Women have never been a man. Fathers can teach you how to
interact with other people, how to treat women and the importance of the
‘responsibility of taking care of his family or at least making in effort’. Many
boys have never seen their fathers sacrifice. God sacrificed his son. Fathers
uphold their names with their sons by sacrificing himself and working as
much as necessary to fulfill the needs of his son and the family. Fathers act
out what you are to do and be like. Boys today are being trained by superficial
means such as videos, rappers, TV shows that disrespect, abuse women,
abandon their sons and is still praised by society.
I was fortunate that my grandfather/parents raised me because my birth
mom went on to get an education. My grandfather took on the role and I am
grateful that he was there. He disciplined me with his belt a few times and
that was all it took! I grew up with her eight siblings as their brother.
My birth mom loved me because she introduced me to “real love” men who
taught me how to be a gentleman, how to socialize, and how to stay calm
in challenged situations. I witnessed them treating my mom so very nice.”
Men, fathers, male role models should come together to build our relationships
- no tearing birth fathers down - there is a GOD who can heal and we ALL gotta
do it! NOW is the time!
Del Mattioli
Del Mattioli, MBA LUTCF CLTC Professional Financial Services 919 401 9988 contact
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