Spectacular Mag - Dec 2014 | Page 22

UPDATE: SO, LIKE DOMESTIC ABUSE VICTIM JANAY RICE, WHY DO THEY STAY? By Jaymes Powell Jr. We all saw and felt it. A football player throwing a boxer’s blow into a woman’s face…knocking her unconscious…then seeming not to care. The couple stayed together, yet hurt their kids - the forgotten victims and witnesses to domestic violence. That’s what happened in my home. About 30 years later, Baltimore Ravens running back Ray Rice did almost the same thing, punching his fiancée and now wife in an elevator. The NFL hastily tossed Rice after the full video of the assault became public, via website TMZ. Now, after pushing legal buttons, the former Rutgers star can return to the pros. Good. The fight was between the couple and, apparently, they made up and got married. Let Mr. Rice go back to work. The hope is, however, he doesn’t repeat the mistakes of the previously mentioned couple - my parents, who allowed my sister, cousins, friends and I to frequently watch my mother being abused. According to the Justice Department, domestic violence makes up for about 21 percent of all violent crime. from domestic violence, which can lead to scarred minds, embarrassment and generational cycles of violence. Crimes kids see. But for far too many families and children, the cycle will continue. The Rice family has a toddler named Rayven. With YouTube, she’ll likely view her father’s cowardly, yet quick, left hand for the rest of her life. Hopefully, the Rice family will be devoid of domestic violence and she will only have that incident to mentally recite. Hopefully, Rice, whom I have covered as a sports writer, will do what so many other men and women haven’t been able to: screen their children For my nuclear family, sans father, that violence witnessed in the 1980’s and 90’s never repeated itself; instead, a steadfast rebellion against it. The lashes from my father’s belt on my hide never hurt as much as watching our mother beaten. Rice’s reinstatement into the NFL, where he is now a free agent and can sign with any team, is great for him and his family. Hopefully the Rice family can show the nation – and more importantly their daugh