In each one of us lives a dream of living well, feeling healthy, being financially stable with loving relationships,
fulfilling work and so on. So why do
we go back? To the unfulfilling relationship, the boring job, the bad habit? Why do we commit to making things better by being a better person, only to go back to the very thing we promised to avoid?
Stop for a moment and notice that one ‘part’ of you really does want to achieve these positive goals, but there is another ‘part’ of you that doesn’t. There is a ‘part’ of you that wants to move forward and there is a ‘part’ of you that numbs out and sabotages your success to move you back into your comfort zone. There is a part of you that feels that you deserve a life of your dreams and conversely, there is a part of you that worries that you’re “not good enough”; “unworthy” so “why bother”.
The struggle to have the life you want does not rely on your external environment, it’s from within. “Going back” is a mere symptom of the inner conflict. It is a coping mechanism to try to turn down the volume of your inner chatter and your inner pain. It’s the inner struggle between your rational adult self and your irrational wounded inner child (programmed in the subconscious) that gets triggered numbs you out and regresses to negative patterned behavior; destroying your progress.
Is this happening to you? Look at the results in your life; they will reveal your true intentions; your true hidden core beliefs. If you don’t have the health and life you want, somewhere in your subconscious mind you are programmed for that.
Normally we want to ignore or numb out our negative self talk. Instead, we encourage you to take notice of it and embrace it. The only way to stop the sabotage is to understand what it is.
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