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Help me be more loving. Give me the strength to get through this tough conversation. Tim Stevens Help me be more patient. Back to my evil neighbor Tom who had the audacity to over-water his grass. As I was mowing my lawn, instead of living in the cesspool of my own anger and bitterness, I began to pray. I prayed that God would change my heart. I prayed that I would become more loving. I prayed that I would stop obsessing about things that didn’t matter. I prayed that I’d have opportunities to build a friendship with Tom. I prayed that God would help me become more loving. And you know what? Before long I stopped caring as much about that corner of my yard. Yeah, I still wished it was green and manicured. But more than that, I cared about Tom. I began looking for opportunities to express love in tangible ways to Tom and his family. I don’t know if prayer changes my circumstances. I’m not sure it does much to change someone else. But I know prayer can change my heart. Because it has. And it does. Tim Stevens is the Vice President of Consulting at Vanderbloemen Search Group. His books on church vision and organizational culture include Pop Goes the Church, Vision: Lost & Found, and Fairness Is Overrated. Stevens joined Vanderbloemen from Granger Community Church, in Granger, Indiana, where he served as the Executive Pastor for twenty years and was instrumental in helping the congregation grow from a group meeting in a movie theater to a world-impact ministry. Learn more about Tim and his latest book, Marked By Love, at: www.leadingsmart.com Solutions • 9