Shine Now! Mag July 2016 Shine Now! Mag July Volume 1 Issue 2 | Page 12

“How Can my Partner Love Me if I Don’t Love Myself?”
By: Paul Graham
Relationships can
be hard when we
don’t love
ourselves first. Is
your relationship
struggling because
of the way you feel
about yourself?

Perception

Reality

My partner must
not love me as
much now.

I don’t love myself
as much because I
put myself last on
my priority list and
let things go?

My partner must be
looking elsewhere.
Why would he want
me?

I can’t face what I
see in the mirror.
So, I tell myself this
to make me feel like
what I am thinking
is right.

My partner has lost
interest in me.

I lost interest in
bettering myself
because I allow a
ton of excuses to
stand in my way.

My partner never
wants to have sex
with me.

I never want to be
close to my partner
because I can’t love
myself or the way I
look right now.

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When you look in
the mirror, do you
only see the
negative stuff
looking back at
you? If the answer
is yes, then you
may have a poor
self-image. It will
cause you to fill
your head with
negative
perceptions when
the reality is
totally different.
Let’s check your
perception versus
the reality about
your body image. I
will share some
examples of how it
impacts the
relationship with
your partner.