She Magazine FEBRUARY 2016 | Page 142

She Inspires in every issue Story by Cassie Graham • Photography by Laura McBryde Lafreda Doctor LEADING A LEGACY “ON MY HONOR, I WILL TRY: TO SERVE GOD and my country, to help people at all times,  and to live by the Girl Scout Law.” At Girl Scout Troop meetings, the Girl Scout Promise echoes through rec halls of churches, community centers, and homes of volunteers. The Girl Scout Law is spoken from the hearts of Daisies all the way through Ambassadors. Perhaps Thin Mints, Peanut Butter Patties, and Samoas have made the Girl Scouts famous, but there is so much more to the organization than just irresistible cookies. Behind each troop of scouts are devoted leaders that scouts can look up to. Leading one such troop is Lafreda Doctor. As a child, Lafreda was a Brownie herself. Years later when Lafreda became a mother, she served as the Den Mother of the Cub Scouts at her church, New Ebenezer Baptist Church. Soon, her youth minister approached her about helping out with the Girl Scouts. Agreeing to “help out,” Lafreda went through the training required by Girl Scouts. Thinking she was just going to be assisting with troop activities, Lafreda was surprised when she was later asked to lead the troop. Agreeing to lead the Girl’s Scout Troop at New Ebenezer has been a blessing for her. When Lafreda first began as 142 FEBUARY 2016 leader of the troop, there were four or five little girls. For the past eight years, the troop has continued to grow as a result of Lafreda’s positive impact on the organization. Today, the troop has grown and totals thirty young women ranging in ages 5 to 17. “My scouts inspire me. Watching them grow from young girls to young women is such a blessing. My favorite thing to see is watching shy Daisies and Brownies come out of their shells. When they volunteer to open meetings in prayer and leave their moms at the door, I know they are becoming more confident.” Lafreda knows that girls deal with a lot of various things, whether at school or home. From the media to models, girls have a mix of messages to sort through in determining what and who they “should” be. At Girl Scout meetings, Lafreda strives to make it a safe, judgment-free environment. Young women are encouraged to be themselves and love themselves—the way God created them. According to Lafreda, “When scouts are comfortable and confident in themselves, they feel safe to come right out and say, ‘I love the Lord, I love myself and who I am as an individual.’” Statements like these from her scouts make it all worth it. Though too humble to admit it, Lafreda is the reason her scouts aren’t afraid to be themselves and open up to her. “I just love these girls as if they were my own children; I think that is why we connect so well.” These young women have been known to tell Lafreda more than they tell their own mothers! “Unless it would bring harm to them, I keep the conversations between the girls and me to myself. They need to know they can talk to and trust me.” She gets to know each girl individually on a personal level to be able to help them believe in themselves. In addition, Lafreda is known as being one of the most organized scout leaders in the area. S