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When we focus on or look for items, people, or situations that we like or are attracted to, these things stand out in our minds. As you desire, like, or love things, you make yourself more aware of more of the same.
You have used this technique throughout your life when you focused on a subject such as; colors, or types of things, like vehicles, smells,
music, and so on. (This is one of the reasons feminine beauty is so popular in our culture.) Once you have shifted your awareness to these things, it grounds your focus with positive emotions.
As you accept and focus on desired things in your environment, you begin to see these things everywhere, so you have reinforced your reality and this is what forms your beliefs, which perpetuates more of the same—that is, what you love about that item or condition.
Unfortunately you can use this powerful tool of mindfulness to bring the things you don’t want as well. For example, as you focus on poor
health, you will notice that in your environment and gravitate to it.
You see examples of this during episodes of frustration for yourself and others. As they focus and carry on about what they do not like, they reinforce their perspective and perpetuate more of the same through awareness.
This is why so many people are unable to change their current situation or reality as they say things like “This is as good as it gets for me” or “I never get a break” or “I am overweight” or “It’s hard for me to change.” In light of this understanding of the process of building and manipulating your reality, how could anything get any better for someone when they believe, expect, and reinforce nothing but their current reality?
Getting clear, positive change is as simple as changing your focus from the things you do not want to what you do want. This shift is a desired conscious process, and you have to want it in order to facilitate it.
Becoming self aware or living in a state of mindfulness can take a life time to master, but of course it doesn't have to be that way. Simply moving into a mindset regarding this desired change can be the catalyst for lifelong change.
Did you know that your self-talk and self-worth can be seen in your physical appearance? Look in the mirror. What do you see? It’s probably not what you see, but what you think others see.
Think of this for a moment: you know of some people who have spent a lifetime listening to themselves or other people talk negatively.
These people are easy to spot; their low self-esteem is reflected in wearing clothes that further depict the look. Physical traits may
include poor body language, little eye contact, slouching, and so on.
As you tell yourself what is possible or what you think is true, you reinforce this picture or notion in your mind, and it becomes your default thought or perspective. Do you get this? This becomes your reality! When you think thoughts or self-talk about anything regarding self-worth, it is recorded in your subconscious mind and reinforces your beliefs creating your reality. It’s just that simple. Never ever say anything to yourself that is
negative or self-inhibiting! Below is a list of phrases you should try not say out loud—and never say in your mind. When you say the words
to yourself or aloud, notice how they make you feel
Negative self-talk Positive self-talk
• I don’t deserve this. I deserve this.
• I’ll be happy when … It’s going to be great
• I could never … I could always …
• Why me? Why not me?
• I wish … I believe I am …
• With my luck … I expect great results
• Like that could happen. That would be
awesome.
MENTAL SELF-TALK AND SELF-WORTH