4. Download Dating
Social media has polluted society so much that it puts an artificial veil of unrealistic expectations on meaningful relationships. I like meeting guys the old fashioned way. Thus, the idea and advisement of online dating does not appeal to me in the least. When my friends and family have encouraged me to give it a try, I immediately think of a friend of mine who gave it a try years ago only to find out some serious inconsistencies with the online profile and world of reality.
5. Permanent Passenger
I would rather be transported to arrive at any destination with firm belief in God that I will eventually get there, with HIS help! I don’t drive. Nope. No car, but enough drive to manifest destiny. Whether for independence or convenience, if I were indeed dating, the drive would have more meaning if the mode of transportation wouldn’t give a ‘date’ the type of leverage he feels necessary to make a score. I’m just not the one! Who is meeting whom with who’s car is all a part of the dance, or the drive?
6. Selfish
A company of one has always worked for me, especially if the intelligent mode is not synonymous with discernible options I use to choose who should be in my circle. I crack myself up. With no television, a library full of books, and the use of YouTube, I kind of like hanging out with me. However, I am a cancer, so by nature, I tend to be a bit reclusive, and being self motivated. Though I have only been single less than a year, sleeping in my king sized bed alone has been rewarding as I sometimes venture to the middle!
7. High Hopes
I married young at nineteen, and it did a number on me. I was a bride before I could legally drink and was married to a pretty amazing guy to boot. He was a law school student by day, and during the next 15 years, by night he was husband who valued loyalty and principles. I actually saw him accomplish dreams and fulfill goals. Who’s to say I will have that luck again? Suffice it to say, quite a bit wasn’t apropos to marital bliss. The relationships I have been in over the last four years since the divorce did not even come close to measuring up, which strengthens my decision to wait on the Lord..
8. Fear
Fear of what, you ask? I’m human after all, and rejection is a real commodity that can justify the most courageous of women embarking on a new lease on life. Despite spending nearly three years dating, I was beyond disappointed to learn that my then fiancé was not as convinced that we were meant to be together as I was. I swore off this ‘dating’ thing at the moment I was hauling 3 years worth of my life out the door the next day and decided to conquer doubt and reluctance in finding a niche without depending on a man. Even Jesus said, “yea do I walk through the valley, I fear no evil.” My journey continues…excuse me if I don’t want to experience that walk again!
9. Patience
Time and timing is important in any journey you take, and yes, patience IS a virtue. Often we rush into things without first using discernible options, deductive reasoning, logic and plain ole common sense. I admit that I am a work in progress, do what is necessary to insure making the right decision(s) would mean not jumping at what looks good only on the surface. The only thing I love more than a long unexpected nap is when things happen right now, when I want it, under my own terms. What appeal to me most at this stage of my life is fortifying my worth, building a sound foundation, and having the wherewithal to not jump to conclusions without content and better context.
10. Time
The old adage that time waits for no one is real and should be adhered to. My time is precious…I really don’t have the time to court, compete and crush the competition by getting to the salons, gyms and joining the happy hour crowd. The Lord is my Shepherd and I shall not want. Between praising Him, business meetings, bed time routines for my two children, and building my business, time management and maintaining balance are key. I do not consider myself lazy…I’m on a mission as God is giving me time to prosper where Grace is His to give to me. I will claim it for sure! Although my marriage didn’t work, still I rise.
In closing, these ten reasons for not dating is a sure path of perfection that will give me the best direction to continue on – going straight, turning right, and looking up. While my head is to the sky, I’m confident that I will be alright and definitely ready for the challenges that are still out there. I shall not be removed from this position nor retained in a life that has no meaning for God got my back!
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