Real Life Real Faith Wisdom for Everyday Life May/June Issue | Page 31

ACR:  Over time, to what extent have you adhered to and benefitted from that which you’ve
written about pertaining to your marriage?
DA:  Over the years, as I have embarked on my journey to be a better husband, I have greatly
benefitted from just the process of writing the book. Each time I had an argument with my wife,
or I felt that I did not conduct myself to honor and edify her, I was reminded of my own
message. I believe that just being in the process of writing the book, I have become a better
husband and a better father. In one of the chapters of the book, I discuss about a B2H (Be a
Better Husband) serum, which essentially entails that if you take a  dose of B2H serum - that is,
 read at least15 minutes from any chapter in the book, then, whatever mental state you may be
at the time, it would turn you around to think positive and continue on the path to be a better
husband.
ACR: We know how important trust and communication is to any meaningful relationship, be it
marital or platonic…what then are your thoughts on the two?
DA: I agree that mutual trust and communication is the key to any relationship, especially
between husband and wife. We are human beings and we are prone to making mistakes. It is so
important to be honest with your wife and fess up, if you made a mistake. Open and sincere
communication is probably the most important key to a healthy relationship. A few years ago,
upon advice of a well-wisher, Lalita and I made a commitment that at the end of each day, we
will spend about 15 minutes, and more if possible, telling each other about our day – sort of
being a witness to each other’s day. Even such small but consistent dose of communication has
gone a long way in overcoming many a frictions, and road blocks, in our relationship.
ACR:  If I were to ask you to whom would you want to forge a professional relationship with,
what steps would be necessary to insure a greater sense of accomplished value?
DA:  My goal in forging a professional relationship with anyone will be to make sure that the
person shares the same philosophy, values, and commitment to be honest, and to have the work
ethic to do his / her best. It just happens that after I attended law school, my wife also decided to
go to law school and to became an attorney. Now, we are partners in both our family and
professional lives. I believe in the proverb that "one and one make eleven". I am fortunate to have
a partner who shares my value and passion.