Don’t Rush
Or block your blessings. When you
become the most important person
in your own life, your confidence will
breed new love—a love that will
span the test of time and complement you.
Heartbreak Hotel
Michelle Cuttino cont.
that is not the best advice when your heart has been broken. When dealing with the loss of a
relationship, you cannot find happiness in someone else’s bed. With any loss, you must allow
yourself time to grieve. So allot yourself a reasonable period to mourn. Whether it's a month,
one year, or several years, you must give yourself time to get your emotions in check. During
that time, it's easy to succumb to loneliness. Turn those feelings into fuel for your soulsearching fire. Become comfortable with the fact being alone doesn't necessarily equate to
being lonely. Use the time wisely, and really get to know the "on the mend" you.
Like most, I also worried about dealing with the shame of another failed relationship. Then I
realized some things are not meant to be. Just because you believed the two of you were
made for each other, it doesn't make it so. You cannot force someone to love you the way you
deserve to be loved. You have the right to walk away from a relationship that is detrimental to
your mental, physical, or spiritual health. There should be no shame in doing what you know is
best for you.
Most importantly, let it out. Don’t keep your feelings bottled up inside. You cannot heal, if you
aren’t open and honest about what you are going through. Feel free to cry. Scream if you
must. Do whatever it takes to release your emotional baggage. Letting go does not make you
weak. On the contrary, setting your emotions free makes you stronger.
Only you can get past your heartache. You must do so with a firm goal in mind. Your purpose
should be to get back to you. Heartbreak will cause you to find fault and doubt yourself. Don’t
allow that to happen. Work on rebuilding your confidence. Focus on what makes you special.
Play up your attributes, and learn to accept your flaws. Just because this relationship didn’t
work out, does not mean you are unlovable. It only means the person you fell in love with is
not the right person for you. Open yourself up to new possibilities.
The truth is there is no cure for a
broken heart. It takes time to mend.
Cater to yourself, listen to your
needs, and find your own happiness.
Heartbreak should not break you.
Use it as the foundation to become a
new and improved you. Once you
embrace your worth, whomever you
allow into your life will do so as well.