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We are living in a self-serving, self-centered, self-righteous , selfie loving, social media obsessed society. I am not talking about teenagers here either. I am talking about all ages of women. I am always flabbergasted when I see other women who are supposed friends arguing over social media for all to see. I have also seen bullying against others that have each other blocked, but apparently someone has taken a screenshot of a post and sent it to the other and than it starts a whole scene of ugly unnecessary drama on social media. We must stop. We as women are in a better place than we have ever been. To think we haven't even been voting for 100 years and just this year a women ran for
the presidency! We have a voice today as women when we
didn't even 60 years ago. It is time to stop bashing one
another and start embracing one another.
So where do we start making the change?
First and foremost we have to stop competing with one another. We have been taught from a young age to compete, but it isn't where it is at; unless you are playing sports, cards, or a board game. Here is a scenario most mom's know oh so well. So and so throws the most elaborate parties. Then we feel like we need to step it up and make ours even better. Seriously! Stop! Some of the best times I have had were at a soup dinner party. Soup, French bread, wine, family or friends, lots of laughs and memories. At the end of the day I'd rather have a relaxing evening with everyone enjoying each other's company versus them taking a favor home that more than likely will get tossed in the trash.
Years ago I had a friend that I noticed always complimented other women. She compliment a great outfit, good hair, a nice piece of jewelry, cute shoes, etc. I adopted it and started doing the same. I took it a step further and started complimenting strangers even. I started to noticed that when I did I took some by surprise and I could tell that I had made their day. Something so simple, but we rarely do especially to a stranger.
Sometimes it is hard to hold your tongue when someone has said something snarky or rude. I have learned through the years that sometimes holding my tongue instead of saying something in turn ; I actually am doing a good deed. It just isn't worth it to hurt someone else's feelings. We can't take back our words after they have been spit out. So instead I just smile or laugh and let them have their moment.
Gossip. Refrain from speaking it and spreading it. I am not going to lie; when I was younger I seemed to know all the dirt. I had a friend say,"I know you know the scoop so spill it." In that moment I realized I was that girl people went to for the scoop. I didn't want to be that girl any further. I stopped repeating. I stopped talking about others lives and situations I had nothing to do with. Now I like to say I am a vault keeper. I am that person who people come to now knowing I will keep the conversation between just us. Spreading rumors you really end up hurting your own self because people lose trust in you. I would much rather be that person that people know can be trusted than the one spreading gossip about others that could be hurtful or not even true to begin with. My rule is if you didn't see it with your own eyes or hear it with your own ears it is none of your business.
I promise if you begin to start lifting others up you will feel better about yourself too. It doesn't happen over night. Take baby steps. Start small. I challenge each of you with the coming New Year to make a small change. Help lift another up especially when they're down. You got this!
"Making the Change"
Suvi Kroeker
By:
Mental "Master"bation
with Sasha Nation