Pure Gospel Magazine 2018 July, 2018 - Page 11

Do you know what makes a healthy relationship? For us,

God is always the center and most important part of our

relationship. We pray together and we pray individually.

Whenever we are facing a major decision in our life, we

always pray together for God’s direction.

Ephesians 5:31 - For this cause shall a man leave his father

and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two

shall be one flesh.

Giving to your spouse is another important piece of a relationship. Giving should be out of compassion, empathy, and mutual respect. Not expecting anything in return. If you are giving as a tool to get something in return, you are creating an unhealthy relationship.

You love your spouse for who they are, not for who they could be. Loving someone for who they could be suggests you want to change your spouse into who you want them to be.

When disagreements come, as they will, you need to fight to fix the situation, not to win the situation. A fight should be an opportunity to see the other person’s point of view, understand each other's feelings, and work toward an equitable resolution. Choose to see the best, not the worst. It is a choice where we place our attention. Where we focus we apply our energy. In every situation you have two options: You can tear the other down and see the worst or you can choose to build them up and see the best. What are the things that make you love and appreciate your spouse?

Avoid making statements like “You always...” or “You never...” these words are rarely true and most likely do not define your entire relationship. They can be very defeating and defensive and do not set the tone you want to work through the situation.

It’s best to communicate what you want instead of what you don't want. There’s a difference between a complaint and a constructive comment.

You apologize because you care, not to make a problem go away. You don’t get points for saying “I’m sorry” abruptly or for playing the martyr. An apology isn’t about making a fight go away, it’s about overcoming an issue as a team

Show each other you love each other every day, not just on special occasions. Spend quality time together it will connect you to each other.

Ephesians 5:33 - Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife [see] that she reverence [her] husband.

We would love for this article to be a place for you to ask questions and share your thoughts or concerns with us and we will do our best, with prayerful minds and hearts to respond with guidance and encouragement.

Until next month!! Be Blessed!! Rocky & Gail

rockyandgailsmith@gmail.com